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writes:I'm gay, that means I'm sexually attracted to other guy and not to a girl. That's a biological fact, I accepted that. I currently married to a woman and I consider my life happy. Sure I'm not sexually attracted to my wife but there is something else that makes me attracted to her that I can't really describe it. She knows this too. We have kids and we both happy.So my question is somewhat philosophical: Am I wrong? Reply to this Question
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reader, xanthic +, writes (10 July 2010):
 It's entirely possible to be attracted to someone's personality, but not their gender.
Also, it's rare for a person to be completely homosexual or heterosexual. The vast majority fall somewhere in between.
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reader, Miamine  +, writes (10 July 2010):
 I should read more carefully, you got kids so you can sexually perform.. again unless either of you love someone else, I can't see anything wrong. :)
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reader, Ashe213 +, writes (10 July 2010):
 Honestly since you said that you're not sexually attracted to wife only to other guys but at the same time you're still attracted to her. You are not wrong just confused. My advice to you is try your best to find something in your wife so you can be sexually attracted to her. Also just because you're sexually attracted to a guy doesn't mean that you're gay it just means that you're curious about the same sex. All I have to say is unless you've had up the booty hole you're not gay but if you have then it still doesn't mean you're fully gay since you did said that you and your wife have kids and it takes your sperm to her egg to make those kids. If you took up the booty hole and you're also having sex with your wife it just means that you are bisexual not homosexual.
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reader, Miamine +, writes (10 July 2010):
Does your wife know that you are gay? Do you sleep with men whilst you and her are married, does she know and does she consent?
People live all types of lifestyles. Many, many gay people get married and live happily,, there is nothing wrong with the life you are living, as long as your wife is aware of how you feel and agrees to live like this.
Do you have sex with your wife, do you want children? The problem comes when you either fall in love with a man, or she wants more from you than you are willing (or able to give) This dosen't always happen, but it can, and is the only problem I can see with you being gay and married.
mmmm... Things have changed now, gay people can live happily and even get married. Have you thought about what happens if you fall in love sexually and romantically with someone who may suit you better.
Live your life, be aware of the difficulties, but live your life in a way that hurts no one and don't bother about what is normal, right or proper. Societies and cultures change all the time, what is wrong today becomes normal tomorrow.
If you and your wife are happy, who the hell cares.
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reader, xgothbeauty14x +, writes (10 July 2010):
While you may be gay and not sexually attracted to your wife anymore, you still love her personality, and her personality is probably what made you fall in love with her and marry her.
You love her personality, and that is what makes you attracted to her, and you like having kids because it completes the bond. Nothing is wrong with it, you can still have your life and still love your wife for who she is on the inside.
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