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writes:Okay so I'm 16 years old and I have a bit of a problem. I've been dating my boyfriend for 1 year and 10 months. He broke up with me last year, but we got back together and everything has been going reasonably well since we got back together a few months ago. School has just gotten out so I dont see him very much and he says that his feelings for me have changed but he still loves me. He wants to be more detached and not worry about each other so much and not be so intense with our relationship. I know that when we see each other next year in school he will want to be just as intense as ever.Also, there is a guy I've met a few months ago and we've really been in contact with each other through texts and phone calls, he says he loves me and wants to marry me, and I'm very fond of him too but he lives a ways away. My boyfriend doesnt know about him. I feel like my boyfriend only wants to be with me if he can have his freedom away from me. he doesnt try to keep in contact with me anymore and never wants to talk to me on msn if i bring up something thats bothering me. he just says "i cant deal with this right now"I feel really unloved and cared for and have been contemplating ending the relationship but it's really really hard for me. Any advice would be great. thanks :)
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reader, MissBrand2  +, writes (8 July 2009):
Sweetie coming from someone who delt with that quite often. I say get out of the relationship, in the long run it only makes things harder for you. My boyfriend(now my ex) of 10 years would every so often break up with me during the summer. He always told me it was because he wanted his time to be alone or hang out with the guys. But i know it was because he wanted to be a guy and see other girls.
Boy was I stupid for even staying with him we recently just broke up and found out he was seeing this girl behind my back. And yes i heard that "i cant deal with this right now" bs too. Its because he didnt want to hear how it hurt me or anything in those lines. Im really not one to give advice on letting go cause im still trying to let go of my ex. But Ive been where you are and I wish I would of let go a long time ago it would of made things awhole lot easier for me. Instead I fought for my relationship and in the end it only ended with me having a broken heart and feeling like i will never find someone else to love me like he did.
I wish you good luck and hope you do what is best for you and what will make you happy
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