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writes:I don't know where to start. I just feel so low. Everything seems to be going wrong at the moment. I am constantly crying. And upset. We moved into our house in November 13. Since then we have had 3 occasions where someone has been onto our back garden, 2 of them when they have taken something, dispite having taken steps to prevent this. We have a summer house/shed at the bottom of our garden and I keep having reacting nightmares regarding burglary and the shed. I don't feel safe in my own home. Every noise I hear I think someone is trying to get into the house. I can't sleep and then when I eventually drop off, I'll hear a loud noise and I'm not sure if I've heard anything or its just in my head? I feel so unsafe. Secondly problem is I hate my job. And I found out yesterday from a text from my partners sister saying 'I just thought you should know that there are rumours going around that your having it off with your boss' this has gone from someone I work with telling their sister, to them telling my partners mum, telling his sister and luckily she knows I would never do anything like that! And told me about the rumours. I now feel that everyone is talking about me at work and that they hate me obviously for spreading such rubish!! I've told my manager and he said he already knew about the rumours yet he isn't doing anything to put a stop to it. And apparently they have been going around for months and have been relayed/gossiped about by other store managers. I have told my partner about the nasty gossip and he obviously knows I would never have done anything like this. I just feel it's one thing after another and I hate feeling so low, with one thing after another. Any advice on either individual situation or as a whole? Thanks so much in advance!
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reader, Abella  +, writes (15 March 2015):
 working in such a toxic place is clearly not helping you at all and it is affecting your health.
Your manager is choosing to do nothing about a person spreading malicious rumours so he is part of the problem if he knows the source of the rumours
It may not be a good time to look for a job. Do that discreetly without discussing it with your Auntie, your neighbour and certainly NOT with anyone at work.
Do go and see your Doctor asap about your anxiety. When a person is already feeling low that is when malicious bullies think they can get away with bullying.
and since you live in an area with possible thieves then put some good padlocks on the buildings in the garden.
Maybe find out if the Police can advise you on how to make your home safer.
If all else fails then talk to your husband about living in a less crime prone area.
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