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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:hi, I'm fed up of being let down all the time. me and my ex were together a year but broke up 4 months ago, what happened was that all the time he was with me he was with another girl to. when i found this out it broke my heart. since then i have been on dates again but am fed up of meeting up this boys a couple of times and then a few weeks later nothing. I'm not saying i want a relationship but every time i grow to like someone they are just throwing it back in my face. Lately i just feel so alone and feel like crying i hate it, its making me feel so bad, what can i do to try and not get to like these boys so fast?PS i have tried not dating but all that happens if me getting even more depressed or being alone.
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reader, Daniel the love doctor  +, writes (14 August 2011):
 Well first you have to work on yourself before you even begin to start dating again. You're in a tough emotional place right now, and it would just be more difficult for you to deal with things if things doesn't go well on your next date...or in your next relationship. Once you're ready to meet new guys, then you should focus on being process-oriented not outcome-oriented. In other words, go in with the intention of having fun, enjoying yourself and the date, and the thrill of meeting someone new. Whatever happens from there...happens. But just look to have a good time. Learn to read body language and pay closer attention to a guy's words. Is he showing you all of the positive verbal and nonverbal cues? If so, you'll have a greater chance to continue dating him (of course that's if you like him as well. :^))Hope this helps!
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