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writes: hi all,im falling for my driving instructor.He's in his early 40's and im 25.We both flirt and he often compliments me and touches my hand or taps my knee and we get on really well. He has never attempted to kiss me or made me feel uncomfortable.Sometimes when im concentrating doing something i can see him from the corner of my eye staring at me.Im not in a relationship and he is divorced with a 7 year old child so if anything did happen between us its not like we are cheating on anyone.I always look forward to my weekly lessons and i always make an effort with my make-up and hair. The 1 hour we have just goes by so fast. Sometimes when park the car to get ready to do a manouver and we're in a quiet street i have to hold back the urge not to kiss him. There is something there between us,but neither of us will make a move. Would he be in trouble with his firm if we did develope a relationship? Is it best to wait until i pass my exam before making a move???
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2009): I am in a similar position to you. I am 31 and he is 50. I would like to say - don't tell him until you have passed your test! Please trust me on this!I told my instructor how I felt and we had a good chat about. There is strong attraction there. He feels the same but is not willing to risk his reputation etc. I think thats why your instructor isn't making a move. My lessons can be awkward but we're trying to get on with it - due to the fact that I failed my test!My situation is more complex as we are both involved in relationships. But we constantly text one another. My advice to you is please try and stay focussed for the lessons. You see him once a week for driving lessons and I'm sure you want to pass. Wait until you pass and then tell him how you feel. I wish you the best of luck with both your driving and the instructor.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 January 2009): Yes, wait until the exam is past to make a move. If it did not work out it would be awkward the remaining of your lessons. You can always just casually mention going for coffee sometime, platonically if you are looking to develop the friendship in the meantime.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 January 2009): If I was your intructor, I would delay the exam a bit, because I can see you an extra 1 or even 10 lessons...
So better find a moment to talk about your feelings and if the feelings are mutual, you don't have to wait all week to see him.
And if you had too much fantasy, you can start to concentrate better on your driving lessons.
If you are also asking if this relation has future? This is depending on so many things, most import: same expectations of life...
Good luck
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