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writes:Hi there..I am a 19 yrs. Old girl. I feel all alone and cheated by my bf. I am still in a relationship with him, its been 2 yrs and want to seek your advise. I feel he cheated me financially and emotionally. Everytime i go somewhere with him..i pay for us always. He brought me gifts that were cheap but i never complained and accepted because of his love for me. I am a highly sensitive girl who respects everyone. There were times when he needed money and i helped him. I gifted him an expensive cell phone despite of suffering losses. I gave him so many things that i wanted to buy for myself but i gave him. I go on foot but made his life worth living. I never asked for my money when he wanted to return. But when i returned money..he didnt think much. Today when i need him..he is making excuses..that he is not well. He doesnt talk to me properly.He knew i cant afford much..but i always went out of my shell to help him out. Moreover, he proposed me. Then, i said yes to him. He even used me emotionally. Now i feel vulnerable, good for nothing and a useless person. I've lost everything my family, money, home. He knows i need him but i feel he isnt the same person i met. I feel cheated. What do you think.? What should i do now? I dont have any job. My father is a heart patient. I am a regular student..no company will hire me. I cant work at nights. I dont even have my mother in this world.I feel depressed, all alone. Can you help and pray for me please? I'l be grateful to you. Thanx for listening.:(
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2010): Hi,
bottom line is, noone who loves you should make you feel this way. I know you've been in a long term relationship and that may make it much harder to leave but the longer you feel this way, the harder it will to get out.
Yes i say get out. it sounds like he has used you. relationships should not be about who buys who expensive presents but if its come to the point where you're admiting that you feel cheated then theres no way that you should be with this guy.
your familys so important. as youre still young, i think it would be best to leave him for now, rekindle the relationship with your family and friends.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2010): People will only do what u let them do to u. Stop giving what u don't have. It may be hard but u have to let him go. Because it will only make life harder for u. Thank god that u did not get married or have kids for this jerk. Sometimes people do realize what they have until its gone. Goodluck and stay strong
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reader, stubby1984  +, writes (14 November 2010):
 well first off stop buying him shit u shouldnt have to buy someones love altho if u feel the need to buy him a gift make it a once in a while thing cuz obviously he expects you to get him whatever he wants.tell his ass to get a job cuz ur not in a position to handle every thing on ur own.he is using you so u need to end the ability for him to.i guess im a lil old fashion i feel the man should take care of the woman and i feel bad when my gf buys me gifts or stuff when i cant afford it but it makes her happy so i let her but i dont take advantage of her kindness and good nature.its up to you to end this shit cuz u shouldnt have to be in this position ur worth more than that so tell him u wont marry him til he gets a job and he can show u that he can show some stability and ambition.idk if this helped u but i tried
sincerely
Shawn
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2010): if at the moment you really have no money, then this man will find someone else who does have money. This man has used you. He does not love you - just look at his actions - he's a disreputable user with no morals. ''Never a borrower, NOR a lender be'' is good advice. You should follow that advice and never ever lend to this man or any other person again. You have the time to rebuild your life. Start saying NO to this man and see how quickly he loses interest in you. You never have to give gifts to a man to keep him, unless he's a user. The good thing is that you are young. And although all seems lost, i can assure you that even this crisis will be resolved and pass eventually. Things will improve. You will finish your schooling.. Eventually you will find a job.
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