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writes:Please help, im am seriously confused. My half brother has a half sister who i really like and who really likes me. my half brother and her have the same mother and i have the same father as him but not her. me and the girl do not have the same mother or father. i dont know where this situation falls in regards to incest and whatnot, im pretty sure it is not going to become an incestual relationship because niether me nor her share the same blood, just have the same half brother. please advise if anyone can make sense of it all.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for the responses folks. I think that the complexity of it all was my main reason for asking this question. We have been constantly chatting to each other since i posted the initial question, and i think that we are going to go down the good friends route, then if things get too complicated, things would be easier to stop, but the flip side of the coin is that spending more time with one another, involved in each others lifes and trying to help each other out, mixed with the feelings that are ultimately involved could lead to anything. might i just add, that we have not been involved in each others lives untill a few years ago and then, there was a break and when we started catching up, chattting and what not, it would appear that the feelings we thought were there previously, are there and powerful. Thanks again folks, to the next level, maybe, just which level (why cant life be simple, lol)
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2009): OK, I think because you do not have a common blood ancestor, it would not be incest, since neither of your parents are her parents. So it would be OK. So she is more like a stepsister. Given that, I would say you and her should do whatever you want as far as persuing a relationship. If any of your family finds out, simply explain to them that it is not incest for the reasons I have just explained.
By the way, do you find each other physically or sexually attracted to each other? Do you both like the idea of dating and having a relationship, even if your family doesn't approve? You can always move away from your families if that is a problem.
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reader, Tropicalman  +, writes (10 August 2009):
OK, now think about it...
When it comes to who YOU should fall in love with in your life and how far you and that person want to take your relationship is absolutely NOBODYS business but the two of YOU!
Personally, I'm very surprised and a bit shocked at the other responses because of their discouraging statements. When it comes to who you and her love and marry is ONLY for you and her to decide. Of course you were completely correct to make sure there would be no laws broken and this shows your maturity at dealing with responsibilities of this caliber. I agree with the others with the law, NO laws are or will be broken should the two of you marry.
Yes, I will agree that with the two mothers and two fathers being intermingled between the two of you only because of the common half brother makes the "equation" an interesting one (it helps that you both don't have to deal with him) however; it still shouldn't make any difference. This is why I'm surprised everyone is trying to discourage you:
If the half-brother is taken out of the picture, HER parents and YOUR parents may have never met! Even if they had, none of them had any sexual relationships with one another and no children together, correct? YES.
It will make all the relationships the absolute same as if you married any other woman from any other parents that no one ever met.
I don't think the responders really thought about this much before writing. At least I hope that is the answer. Otherwise, I'd like to know the defined reason for discouraging the marriage! Sheesh!
Good Luck and Congrats should you and her tie the knot! :-}
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2009): You are close with this person and would like to take things further but there are some relationships or possible relationships in life that are simply too complicated to instigate. This is one of them. I'm sure it is not incest technically / literally but do you really want to get involved in a situation like this? Life is pretty complicated when you're in a relationship anyway !!and this could make things really hard. The very best thing you can do is to care for this person and move on emotionally to find a partner / girlfriend who is not a member of your extended family. I hope this helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2009): It is legal. If both of you don't have the same parents then there is nothing wrong with you two becoming a couple.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionby the way, my half brother never sees his mother. i never see him either, he is a fair few years older then me and has moved a long distance away (for info) at any time, we would both, me and his half sister be able to never see each other again, if that was required. my father and her mother are very much estranged and have been since before either me or her were born
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (9 August 2009):
I don't think it's actually illegal.
But just because you won't get arrested for it, doesn't mean it's a good idea.
It still going to cause issues in the family, and if it all goes horribly wrong then you're going to have to see her a LOT afterwards.
To be honest mate, it's just not worth going there.
Good Luck!! xx
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