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36-40,
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writes:Me and my boyfriend are long-distance. To bring us closer I tried to do one thing he fantasizes about: anal sex. I don't like anal sex, never really had much of it and the little I had I didnt like. But my boyfriend wants to try it, and to not loose intimacy when he's so far away I decided I'd try to do it myself and practice a little on my own. Embarrassing enough. I did it, and then I wanted to share with him.It made him very happy, but as I was telling.. this was very embarrassing for me because, well, of the situation and Im not 100% comfortable with doing anything with my ass. Especially not alone. But I still did it for him and tried to see if I could get used to this. Anyway, about half ways into telling him about the experience, I told him something I did that made it easier for me. And he commented with "oh I forgot". I was dumbfounded because I never told him anything about anal sex and myself before, as I never really tried it out (just one time years ago and it wasn't that great). And I never had anal sex with him at all!So I asked him a bit unsure if he knew alot about this or what. I honestly should have just asked him "what the *** do you mean by that" but anyways. And he answered "I had a friend who was into anal sex, but I forgot about it". I asked him what he meant by "friend" and he said it was an ex girlfriend. Like I wasnt embarrassed enough from just telling him something so intimate, he brought an ex into the picture! I felt that he compared me to his ex's preferences! I felt so horrible, and told him so. Then he just said I misunderstood, he meant to say he had read up on anal sex ONLINE (like my personal experience with it was something he could read up online??) It didn't make it any better for me. I still feel so.. I dont even know what I feel, humiliated. I stopped telling him the rest of what I did, and now I don't know how to deal with this!He said he was sorry for making that comment, that he doesnt even know himself why he said it, but I still feel horrible, and like what I did was worth nothing since apparently he can just read about anal sex online.
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reader, sweet pea23  +, writes (9 December 2009):
hunny anal is a deeply intimate personal thing.you need to be comfatable with the person your with and in doing it.dont do it if you dont want to.i never done it til i met my fella as i love him and wanted to try it and i feel comftable with him.its a specaial occasion treat.make sure your relaxed maybe have a few drinks.make sure you use lubrication and a condom.if your unhappy with it dont do it as it could make you feel dirty.men say things they dont mean he prob didnt mean to bring his ex up,but its not about his ex its about you two if he mentions them agian say you dont want to hear it
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reader, kickstick24 +, writes (9 December 2009):
you have to understand something about guys, 50% of the things we say come out of our ass. im sure it was just a slip up, were human and everyone makes mistakes. if the problem is consistent to the point of where he continuously talks about his EX then you need to sit down and have a serious discussion with him.
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