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*lynnsmiley
writes:i am a female, i have been friends with *george for 6 years. ive been dating *jim for 2 months. *george and *jim are having a disagreement about their roommate situation. when i tell *george that im not getting in the middle of it he acusses me of taking *jim's side. He is constantly callin me upset about the situation and bad mouthing *jim to me. he is also being very possesive of my time. i feel like he is pitting me against my BF. Is it because he feels like im his friend and i should be on his side or am i being nieve to the situation and there is more to his feelings for me? i dont know how to proceed with this situation. i want to be a sympathetic friend but i dont want to ruin my relationship.*names have been changed
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reader, jlynnsmiley +, writes (6 June 2007):
jlynnsmiley is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThe real issue is my friend. My BF isnt asking me to take sides and is trying to be as reasonable about the situation as he can be. However my friend is taking any oportunity he gets to bad mouth my BF and when i say im not getting involved he accused me of taking my BF side. I dont know what to say to my friend.
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reader, flower girl  +, writes (5 June 2007):
 Because you have feelings for both of them tell them that they are hurting you by trying to get you to take sides and you don't want to speak to either of them until the situation is sorted out, hopefully this will make them come to their senses and sort it out, if they both care for you they should be able to do this for you.
Take care.xx.
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reader, DV1 +, writes (5 June 2007):
 Get them both in the same room, and tell them that you're not getting involved with their bickering. If they're not satisfied with that, tell them you're done talking to either of them, and move on with your life. Follow through.
DV1
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