A
female
age
18-21,
anonymous
writes:I’m a student from China. I used to be a top student in class who got high marks in most of the subjects. However,I have failed in every exams recently and felt like I can’t find my way. The high school entrance exam is coming soon,and I have no confidence that i can do well in it. Could you please give me some advice?
View related questions:
confidence, my ex Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
male
reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2020): Hello OP! We know that you are capible of being a great student, because you have been a great student! We know that a student can NEVER become complacent, because learning is a lifelong process! You must have 8hrs sleep, per night! You must eat 3 healthy meals daily! Junk foods are NEVER a substitute for a meal! Study smarter: study in 90min blocks, then walk away, use the restroom, drink a liter of water, go outside for some sunshine and vit D or in evening, go out to look up at the stars and realise the vastness of GODS UNIVERSE! In taking breaks like these, you rest and recalibrate your mind, in order to reset your ability to soak up another dose of information! Cram sessions and all nighters of study, are ineffective! Listen to Wise Owl! Your parents are your best friends and are there to help you through problems! Trust me, they Love you more than they Love themselves!!! Get your mind right: Look to history: Great wars have been won, in spite of some lost battles! You can do this, because you want to!
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2020): During my mock exams, I scored really badly because I was so anxious about the outcome that I kept on getting the easiest questions wrong. I worked incredibly hard, studies my butt off and walked into my finals with the mindset of trying my best, whatever happens happens. I scored two grades higher than the first time. Changing your attitude from “afraid to fail” to “try your best” could be a first step.
Good luck! :)
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2020): Typo corrections:
"They might takeaway their phone and devices, or not let them hangout too much with their friends; so they will concentrate more on their schoolwork."
"Then every test thereafter you'll flunk; because you can't get-over that one-time low-score on an exam!"
I always correct my spelling and grammar; because English is a second language for some people, and I want to be understood. I also want to encourage people to be conscious of what they say in writing; so you get your point across clearly. I practice what I preach!
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2020): You may have had trouble with a recent test or quiz; and now you've developed "exam-anxiety!" It's very similar to "writer's block." Your mind is blocked! You go blank, and you can't focus or concentrate! Just the thought of an exam, and you panic!
Has anything very upsetting happened recently in your family, or did you recently lose a friend or loved-one? Sometimes when something serious happens to us, we lose the ability to retain or remember what we study; and we can't even do well in even the easiest of subjects! Ugh! I've been there! You are making yourself even more unfocused by letting fear and the worry get to you! I hope your parents aren't pushing you too much to excel; that pushes some kids over the edge! You have to let them know when they are pressuring you too much! Yes, even Asian parents! They love you, and they will listen if you talk to them! They want you to do well in your studies; but they also want you to enjoy being a kid.
In order to regain your concentration, you have to be sure you're getting plenty of rest and sleep. Staying up too late robs your young mind of the rest you need. You also might want to put-down your video games, and take a break from social media. Your brain can only handle so much before you get "overload!" If you procrastinate and wait until the last minute to study, you will panic. You will forget everything, and your mind will be more focused on failing than passing your exam.
Ask your parents to contact your school to arrange for a tutor. It can be setup for after-school, or some may even come to your house. Nowadays, you can also get online tutoring; but it might cost a fee. Don't be ashamed or afraid to tell your parents when you are having trouble with your studies. They should be the first to know whenever you run into problems like this. We can't do anything but offer you suggestions; but your parents can actually seek the kind of help you need.
Teenagers tend to hide things from their parents, fearing they'll make a big fuss, get angry, or force them to work harder. The might takeaway their phone and devices, or not let them hangout too much with their friends; so they will concentrate more on their schoolwork. So here you are!
Well, when you forget everything you've studied; sometimes it is because you fear you'll fail! If you haven't studied, or never ask your teachers for help. You might!
You forget everything to put all your energy into worrying! One bad test score, and you lose it! You get a 96 instead of a 100, or you want an A, but it's B+...and you freak-out! Then every test thereafter you flunk, because you can't get-over that one-time low-score on an exam! Then everything seems harder! When you're used to high-scores, one failure is a big disaster!
You are blocking your brain's ability to remember; instead, it focuses on what you're worried about! I've asked if something bad happened; because usually young-people worry about family problems beyond their control. They've broken-up with a boyfriend or girlfriend, they're being teased or bullied by other students; or something has happened that makes you too sad to concentrate on your schoolwork. If you bring these problems to your parents, it will take the pressure off of you! Parents are not enemies, they are there to help you. We can't stand by your side, or comfort you when you're upset. You have to weed through our answers, and we might not come-up with a good enough answer; or give you answers in-time for the advice to be effective.
Studying more is the obvious answer; but when you are having "brain-farts" you may not be getting enough sleep. You're up too late, on your devices too much, and you just need to talk to somebody who loves you to ease your mind and worries about things. That's your parent's job, sweetheart!
...............................
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (28 June 2020): Speak with your teachers as they will be able to advise you best. Study hard. I find its helpful to revise the key points of what I have learnt each day just before I go to bed, then it sticks in my mind and sinks in over night. Set aside time every day to study and revise. Join a study group with your friends. Test each other. Ask your family to help test you on subjects. When it comes to the exams, try to relax. Do practice exams at home
...............................
A
female
reader, Honeypie  +, writes (28 June 2020):
 Do your school offer tutors? Extra classes over summer?
I could say, STUDY and study hard in the subjects you have difficulties until you feel you grasp things better. If you can do it in the morning where your mind is clearest. Or make a study group with friends so you can all help each other?
What has changed that made you fail ALL your exams? Have you not studies? Did you think because you used to ace thing you didn't have to study as hard?
What will happen if you do not do well in the entrance exams? Do you take a year over? Or can you not continue to study?
What are your hopes and dreams (career wise) for your future? Sometimes keeping those dream clear in your head will help work harder to reach those goals in order to get to the end-goal or dream career.
Lastly, Some people are good at testing, but not great at the actual subject. Others are not good at testing but know their stuff. Could it be nerves that made you fail? Can you retake any of the exams?
...............................
|
