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*urdygirl81
writes:I have a very strange situation, I met my now husband on match.com. We talked alot before meeting and he did tell me that he was still very close to his ex wife. He was married for 4 years and while he was gone on work she told him she was actually into women and wanted a divorce. So he was divorced for about 5 months before we met and he said that his ex wife was his best friend and she would always be a part of his life and if i didnt like it than it wouldnt work. At the time I didnt really care she lived on the other side of the United States anyways so its not like i would really have to see her or hang out with her. After dating about a month he asks me how I would feel if he let her move back in with him because she had decided she wanted to move back but couldnt afford to live on her own. I said I didnt care what he did but I didnt want to date anymore because it wasnt something I wanted to deal with or be a part of. He eventually told her that she couldnt move back in with him, and that he wanted to stay together and try to make this work. I really was unsure of staying together. After a couple more weeks I found out that I was pregnant and we moved in together than got married. After we got married i found texts to her saying that he loves her, and that he really cares about her. Than he has songs that he wrote and recorded for her on his itunes still that drives me crazy but he wont get rid of them.Ever since I have had issues with his ex. I dont know why I try and drive myself crazy but I find things of hers or pictures of her around his house. He does throw them away when I do get mad and show them to him. Im going crazy, all I can think is that I'm nothing like her, and she was alot better looking and thinner than me and I cant stop making myself feel bad over her. I hate not being as skinny as her, or being as good looking its ruining my relationship with my husband and i dont know how to stop. I know he still wants to be friends with her, and I keep telling myself that the only reason he is with me is because he cant have her since she is into women now. I just dont feel like I'm the one he really wants. I just feel like second choice. please help me!
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