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female
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41-50,
*hantaasha
writes:I have been in a 4yr relationship with my boyfriend we have lived together for 3 of thoose 4yrs. Our relationship overall is doing well, we do not fight as much as we did in the past and we are getting to understand eachother better. The issue I see that we do have is, his relationship with his estranged ex-girlfriend aka the mother of his first born. These two cannot get along for the sake of their 5yr old son. Her and I do not communicate and my boyfriend and her do not communicate on a regular basis, years past before they will speak (awful). My boyfriend recently has been trying to re-establish contact and is starting to send support money monthly. The ex/mother isnt responding, they had a hard relationship before ,during and after the pregnancy,its as if she is still upset with him, even though he is really putting effort to just move on and do the right thing.We have had conversation about his ex and his son, what I get from it, is that he is so frustrated that he doenst know what to do and has made it clear that he doesnt want to go through the court system. Whish brings me to another point, neither of them have tried to take the other to court, weird?This situation bothers me because it make me feel that if these two do not get along,then my relationship with him might be in danger. The situation over all has me thinking that he is jaded from his past with her and not being in contact with his only son and in the end he will not be ready to move on to the next level in relationship-dom. Engagment and marraige. I really would like some feedback about my situation that I just explained, please tell me what you think and or what you you would do in my situation.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2010): I dont want to be rude but to be honest, Both parents need to grow up. Its about the Child not them. If he wants to pay child support and she wont take it he is going to have to go to the courts. Because when it comes down to him wanting to see the child she might be able to bring that to courts and fight saying he never tried to pay. He needs to cover his ass. I would contact Child support office etc.. to see what he is able to do. He might have to even go as far to take her there anyway to see his Child.
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