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writes:Athough i want to make a good relationship i think that i will lose my freedom and i would'nt have time for myself if i am with someone a lot of hours every week. So i don't really ask from the other person to be together a lot of time every week and he doesn't make a try to find time for me as he has a lot of things such as work or his own friends where he spends a lot of time. How can i get over my own fears about freedom and make positive demands for his time. Reply to this Question
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reader, Midge  +, writes (25 June 2007):
 Firstly, having a relationship and being in a meaningful relationship does NOT mean loosing your freedom!
I have been in a very meaningful relationship for 9 years and I still have my freedom to do what I want, when I want. The only thing I dont and wont do is cheat on my partner!
If this person is someone that you care deeply about, then you need to sit down with them and work out when with your schedules you will have time to see each other.
With my boyfriend, our schedules are very different and we have to work them out in advance to work out when we can see each other. That way, I still have freedom to do what I want, and get to see him too.
It really does work out well, and I still have my freedom to do as I please!
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