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writes: OK Then, here is the story,Im a single gay man and have been interested in this guy now for some time. I met him through work about six months ago during a training workshop. At this time although i thought this guy was attractive i did not realise i he was gay so nothing was said. I also do not think he was aware that i was gay and he was certainly not aware that i was attracted to him and wanted to ask him out.At this point three months or so had passed and after reccently chatting to someone who works with this guy i immediately became more interested as i am aware his is single and looking and wants to meet someone to eventually settle down with. The trouble is the more I hear about this guy the more I want to ask him out but as he is not aware that i am gay and fancy him and as he is not aware that i know he is gay (he is very straight acting although out) plus the fact i have only met this guy twice in the last three months through work im lost as to how i can get his attention!Any ideas please - i only want the opportunity of five minutes with this guy so that i can ask him out? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 December 2007): tell him im gay,and i like u.it that ok.or have i approached u in a wrong way?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2007): well i really dont think that im in a position to say anything but you should get to know him as a friend and take it from there but remember he is a co-worker as well so if anything goes wrong in the relationship it may not be the best for your job ether
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 September 2006): Hey there,
I think,...ok lets try this, if you knew when the store was not too busy, or during a quieter period where he is not constantly running up and down, then it will be easier for you to approach him.
You tell him, that you met briefly in the training workshop a few months back, but didn't want to assume things, or be too hast, and heard from a friend that he worked there, and that you'd like to go for a drink and get to know one another sometime.
I recon it's better to give it a chance since you haven't really had the proper opportunity to confront him in a way that leaves you feeling comfortable.
Something that would even be nice for both is that if he has his lunch break, you could even ask if he'd like to go for a quick coffee during his break and approach him and ask!
What do you recon?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 September 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhe works in a store, its not one i would normally call into - in fact it was the first time i called into this branch. i wouldn't say it at stalking levels, i have only been to talk to him / see him once. I just would a chance to have five minutes to ask him out... do you think i should give up and move on as though it was not meant to be or do you think i should keep looking without stalking for that opportunity to ask him out?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 September 2006): Hey there.
Is there any way you can get his number? Is the store that he works in, is it one that you'd normally visit, as you don't want to appear as a stalker?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 September 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionUPDATE TO RESPONSES:
I went to his workplace two days ago and travelled an hour there and back to see him. When I got there he was really busy, really stressed and didn't have the time for more than a 'hello - you alright?' before he needed to dash again - going to see him at work is not the best idea, he runs a really busy department store where he is stupidly busy and stressed from start to finish.
I need an idea of how i can approach this. I know what clubs and bars he goes to but i cannot hang out in these every night hoping to bump into him. Also the guy i knew who worked with him that has told me all about him has now moved elsewhere in the company so i cant even go through him.
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reader, Raona +, writes (15 September 2006):
 What are you waiting for hun? Get down to his work place and ask him out for a coffee. Never ever let love pass you by, we only live once my friend. Good luck and it would be great if you could maybe keep us posted on how you get on :)
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reader, lboy  +, writes (15 September 2006):
 hi, i'm bisexual and i also find it hard to ask guys out but if you really like this guy then i suggest that you tell him how you feel as for the whole him not knowing that you know, you should tell him that you have been told by friends of his that do know he is gay, then just talk to him about his likes and dislikes and try to get to know him that is the best way to start a relationship as it builds ground for you to talk on and then expand.
good luck
from lboy
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