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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:hi , im a new wife , ive only been married about a year now , im also a new mother , i got married when i was 6 months pregnant , at the time it seemed like the right thing to do , i really did think i loved him , which i do , just not in love , any ways , the man im married to is extremely controlling , down to how i do my hair , and hes curently in iraq , (his own choice)our whole relationship hes been gone , but recently ive come to relize how unhappy i am , im only 18 and i feel like a house wife , he wont let me go out with friends, i feel like i should stay with him for the baby , but then again i dont want to feel like this , ive met a new guy , one who actually likes me for me , but im confused on what to do with this , he will be back in a month and im not sure weather i should bother tryin to work things out or just let him know how i feel and be done with it. if some one could please help me , i feel like ive ruined my life , i just want us to both be happy and i dont see that happening , so i wanna know whether or not i should end it , and if its worth staying with someone for a baby? can divorce be quick and painless, if neither side has any big requests of the other? i dont want anything from him and child custody shouldnt be an issue , i feel like if i tell him how i feel ill rip his heart out , should i compromise his feelings for mine?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you for your reply it helps to know that im not the only one on my side , my family seems to defend him and tell me to forgett about what 'I' want cause im married now , but thank you so much
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2007): it sounds pretty obvious to me that your relationship is over... there is no love left, he is controlling, he makes you unhappy... do you want your child to grow up in that type of an environment? you're only 18, you have your whole life ahead of you and you and your child deserve better, deserve a brighter future. I believe that you know what you need to do, so follow your heart. Go for that man who treats you right, makes you feel special and sounds like would make a great father.
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