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writes: Hummmmm where do I start?Theres a guy I like, his name is Darrel.He hangs out with the same group of friends I do, and i always felt that he liked me as much as I liked him.My mate asked him who he liked at college etc, and then her bf just blurted out that I fancied him.He said that he likes me but isn't willing to fuck up our friendship for a relationship which i know would work.Was it just a brush off? or is there anything I can do?I'm just a bit upset.....xxx ty in advance Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2006): There is no easy answer to your question, but here is the truthful answer. If he wanted to date you and start a love relationship, he would find a way to make it happen. Amazing how resourveful guys are when they really want to date a female. I honestly feel he does like you but not enough to date you. Why don't you just keep being a good friend to him. You may have to accept that he's not at the same place as you are, right now. But there's nothing saying that you can give him a bit of a push in the right direction. It can't harm anyone, to quietly and prudently allow him to see the best of you, inside and out. If you show him self-respect, grace and intelligence, then he will clue in, eventually. There is nothing wrong with subtley pointing it out to him and doing such, in a ladylike manner, might help that along. If I were you, I'd stay as dignified as possible and handle myself with class, maturity and grace, but keep being yourself. This is more of what he'll take note of about you. It very well could happen that he'll grew more and more fond of you, to the point that he'll 'open his eyes'. But that's still no guaruntee, dear. Just learn to judge the situation. If he shows a total lack of interest and starts dating other women, then you'll know, he wasn't "that into you". That's when you bow out gracefully and move on. You can continue being his friend and date someone else, who really wants to give you, love and happiness. Good luck, dear and take care.
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