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writes:Can this marriage survive his continuing infidelity? i recently got married two months ago, me and my husband decided to after we found out i was pregnant im 7 months along now.we originally live in one arab country and had to get married in a different arab country as I was obviously pregnant at the time of the marriage and in the first country that would not be permitted. so until we were able to get married i temporarily resided in dubai and then in germany. He did come visit regulary except in germany where i stayed the last 3 weeks before we got married..we been dating over a 2 years now and had our ups and downs. Also we seperated once for a month in december 2010 but than decided new years to have a new start and forget everything which has happened previously.I dont know what to do anymore, i really love him but i do love this baby much more. my husband has just told me few days ago that 1 month before marrying me he cheated on me, he's a pilot so he gets around..he said because we werent married, he didnt take it so serious .. he just broke my world apart i mean at that time i was 5 months pregnant getting our wedding fixed and than he does this ..he's in england today, and out again in the same place, where he cheated and again lying to me. i dont know what to do. please i need some advise..Our sex life is actually pretty good we do sleep with each other at least twice a day even now where i am pregnant..But how is this not enough?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2011): Being pregnant is a very good reason to get married in some countries. Here in the west people are not imprisoned or put to death for having sex before marriage so we can afford to hold out for something better.
To answer your question, OP, obviously what you have is not enough. If it were, you would be happy and you wouldn't be writing to us asking for help.
Being a philanderer is a way of life for your husband, not a recent development and you have been given a clear picture of what a life with this man has in store for you.
If you're not yet able to leave for financial reasons then quietly plan your exit strategy and get your ducks in a row before making yuor move.
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reader, VSAddict  +, writes (19 July 2011):
 Just because you're pregnant is not a reason to get married. You should've waited for when you knew you couldn't be without him and he felt the same about you. He doesn't feel that way so you should divorce him. He doesn't take this as a big deal or seems like he's sorry. He doesn't feel like you're good enough, so why be with someone like that? As long as you take him back and let him, he's going to keep taking advantage of the situation. He's probly thinking this is a very good time to cheat because he knows you need him during your pregnancy. But you shuold leave, and don't get married again until you know it's going to last.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2011): you need to stop sleeping with your husband since he's still cheating on you, he could pass a disease to you because you don't know who he's slept with and whether they have any diseases. You need to protect yourself.I'm sorry to say but your husband will keep on cheating on you so the only way your marriage can survive is you somehow become OK with it. but that's shortchanging yourself and there's not many women who can be OK with it. it's very bad for you to stay with someone who is so disloyal to you and treats you badly.Sounds like your relationship was always rocky from the start. And then when you decided to start anew and forget everything that happened previously, this just doesn't work because problems don't just go away by themselves just because you decide to "forget them." what that means is that you were not facing the problems and solving them instead you were pretending they didn't exist so they keep continuing and the relationship continues on its previously self destructive path and that's why now you're pregnant and married yet he's still cheating on you.you need to decide for yourself what is more important to you: having someone who loves you and whom you love and trust, or being married to this guy simply because he's the biological father of your kid but know that he will continue to cheat on you. personally I say you should leave him and be free to find someone who will treat you better, the way a husband should treat his wife.
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