I'm 24, never had a boyfriend. I don't want to be 30 and still a virgin!

A female age 36-40, anonymous writes:

I am 24 and I still haven't had a boyfriend. I went to an all girls school with a mixed sixth form that only had about 5 boys so there weren't really any options there. At univeristy I didn't meet anyone although a couple of my close mates from uni are guys, they are fab mates but there is no spark. Since leaving university it has been hard to meet anyone because there are only about ten men in my office and they either have girlfriends or are about 20 or 30 years older than me. When I go out at the weekend the men who chat me up are only interested in sex. I suggest meeting them for coffee/a drink on another day and they aren't interested because they only want to have sex right there and then on that night. In desperation I turned to online dating because I feel I am missing out on having a sexual relationship with someone who is also my friend like all my friends are doing. Online no one I sent a message to was interested. I felt really dejected and don't really get it because the men I picked were either my age or up to early thrties and I didn't go for male -model types or men with lots of money as that's not really my thing. Just the guy next dorr but they weren't interested. I got lots of interest from other men on there but many of them would message and text me saying they wanted a date but right before we were suposed to meet they would ose interest and not meet me. So I didn't actaully go on one single date. It also bothered me that most of the men on there were only interested in women 10-20 years younger than them. I don't have a problem with men liking younger women but i do have a problem with it if they exclude women their own age. It makes me feel like I have a very short shelf life and an expiry date and the only thing i am good for is being young. I thought as well as attraction other things like a bit of personality, being a good laugh and sharing some common ground mattered. Offline most couples are around the same age so why online do all men only want a younger model. I really don't know what to do now - i feel left out and lonely because all my friends talk about their boyfriends all the time and I don't want to still be a virgin when I'm 30.

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