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I'm 20 years old and my libido has disappeared!

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Question - (10 July 2009) 6 Answers - (Newest, 16 July 2009)
A female age 30-35, anonymous writes:

I'm 20 years old and as of the last two years (or maybe a bit less) my libido has gone down, down, DOWN!!!!

I no longer get any tingly sensations, maybe VERY mild ones. Sometimes, when I'm with my boyfriend... but it's not him, it's me.

Well I was a virgin before I met him, not much experience you see, mostly making out with other guys. And I used to be so horny all the time. And when we started dating I was always so horny and he got me off so fast.

I used to watch porn and instantly get turned on. I used to check out guys like there was no tomorrow! I used to have sexual dreams often, now I never have them any more!

Now it's all gone. Nothing. And I've become uptight too! Now I dislike porn. And I get nothing out of watching or checking out guys. I fantasise and NOTHING happens. I can orgasm, ONLY if I try hard, and I get "aroused" in the process, not prior to. And it's not satisfying. I guess I just masturbate out of habit, or to see that I'm not totally dysfunctional... but I guess I could go months, or years, without masturbating.

HELP!!! What's this? It's not a "phase" since this has been going on for like 2 years!!

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2009):

There is such a thing as FSD, Female Sexual Dysfunction

the opposite or equivilent to ED the male eretile dysfuncion copy the link below to your browser & have a look hope it helps.

http://www.urologychannel.com/fsd/index.shtml

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A female reader, Honeypie United States +, writes (10 July 2009):

Honeypie agony auntGo see your doctor and talk to him. At the age of 20 your libido shouldn't go down like that with out a reason.

It could definitely be hormonal.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2009):

I went through the same thing and I never questioned if I was a lesbian like the woman who answered prior. I'm twenty also and I shocked myself when I no longer had a desire to have sex. This was a couple of months ago when I was very anxious, stressed, and clinically depressed. Be sure to take care of yourself; don't feel guilty for not having a desire to have sex -- it will come back once you start taking care of YOU,

Worked for me.

Be blessed

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A reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2009):

Hm, no advice - same problem- just checking out others answers. Here's something to think about: I've been having the same deal pretty much EXACTLY even the whole, months or years without lol.... Recently I have befriended a lesbian (out of curiousity mostly) I am not sexually attracted to her- but I can talk to her more, and be myself more around her than I have ever been around any guy. I don't really think I'm a lesbian, but she sure is a nice girl. lol- just something to think about when hot guys dont turn ya on anymore. Haha or maybe I'm just a weirdo- but I will be watching this question to see if it helps me too! Thanks for asking it!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2009):

Have you gone on the pill/changed pills around 2 years ago, or even since? The changes it has on your hormones can completely change your libido. If you have changed pills, I say go and try a different one! If not I'm not sure...

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A female reader, thatgothgirl20 United States +, writes (10 July 2009):

thatgothgirl20 agony auntSee a doctor maybe? Are you depressed? Are you tired? Are you on any antidepressants?

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