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writes:HiI really need help in deciding whether i should follow my heart or my mind.Im 20 years old and am in love with a guy who is 40 years old.when we are together nothing matters and its like the time stops.we both understand eachother, care for eachother and make eachother happy!But my family is against this.they say he is too old for me, and to be honest if i was to follow my mind i wouldnt be with him.However my heart says that he is the one and that i shouldnt let go of the love of my life!Please help me!many thanks Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 October 2008): this is not the first time i have seen a question such as yours. but - i never see the same question coming from a 40 year old who says 'please advise me, should i marry a 20 year old, my family say ithe age gap is too big?'. the reason for this is - 40 year olds know their own minds so much more than 20 year olds. they wouldn't ask advice. either they see the dangers of the age gap or they recognise teh advantages they have over you. you will not get the chance to grow up alongside an equal if you are yoked with someone who has all the answers, it will make your relationship unbalanced and unfulfilling for you both.
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reader, -MISSMCKAY- +, writes (30 October 2008):
 My partner of 3 years is 15 years older than me. A lot of people have commented on this being 'too old' however, like what your saying we have no problem and everythings great. one thing i will say is make sure this is 100% what you want. There have been times where i have thought i just want to go and have fun and try meeting knew people, but my heart keeps coming back to him. as long as he is good to you, who cares what anyone else thinks. age is only a number! good luck x
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