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36-40,
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writes:I am in my early 20s and want to have sex all the time. There is nothing I'd rather do and no time I'd find inconvenient. After having sex I feel like it just as much if not more. I presume that is normal for someone my age? I am gay and live with my boyfriend who I am faithful to. I said I felt like sex a lot more and it has increased from once a week/fortnight to two times a week. He is obviously making an effort but it just isn't enough. I feel like it all the time and don't know what to do. I think it would be unreasonable to ask him for more but that's what I want. I just want it all the time and am worried it will drive a wedge between us as in the past he backed off sexually as I was wanting it all the time.Before anyone suggests it yes I masturbate (a lot) but I am in a relationship with a man I love and would much rather have sex with him.What to do? Thanks. Reply to this Question
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reader, Boonridge McPhalify  +, writes (13 November 2007):
 yeah twice a week is not very much at all-is your partner the receptive one as maybe he doesn't want to stretch himself too far-ya dont want incontinency or prolapse. just have oral
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 November 2007): Well you guys don't actually have sex that often so no wonder you are antsy. I mean you love and are very attracted to your boyfriend so obviously you want to be as intimate as possible. That doesn't seem unreasonable.
Just so you can compare, and I don't even know what is normal, but my boyfriend is 35 and I am 26 and we have sex everyday and sometimes up to 3 times a day. He usually initiates it but our sex feels so good. Like it is so intimate and loving. And we just love eachother so much. I love it when he holds me and when we kiss.
But you know I guess some people are not as sexual as others. You know your best bet is to go with the flow. But maybe he doesn't like your sex style?? Maybe if you changed the way you do it, your guy might be more attracted to the whole idea of doing it. Maybe be more gentle, or more rough, or try cuddling more, or keep trying and doing stuff to see what seems to turn him on the most and get him most in the mood and most wanting you. And then work with that and keep doing stuff he likes alot so that he will be in the mood more often.
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