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writes: im 17 he's 40+. he's perfect man, kind,gental,loveing,cuddly,makes you feel wanted.he is a very hands on person which is great and he made a move on me(a very effectionate kiss on the lips). i didn't mind and i realy enjoyed it. but he slightly tied up with 2 kids and a wife. i see him again 2morrow and i'm starting to feel for him. is this wrong. i think about him now.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2007): you must get a life of your own!!! he is too old for you. and he should let you live your life. He would not bother with an old woman when he was 17..... So you should not let him in your life.
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reader, lost cause +, writes (26 September 2006):
 you cant help who you have feelings for, but to be young is no excuse, you are still getting in the middle of a family and it could end up very messy
end it xx
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reader, Toria +, writes (22 September 2006):
 He's married you are stepping on someone else toes and potentially heading towards breaking up a marriage and taking away two kids daddy.
On the other hand you might not break up a marriage and just be a mistress never respected just used as and when he wants to.
You can't control who you have feelings for but you can control what you do about it, your 17 you really don't need to be tied up and committed to a man that will only be committed to you when he wants something out of you other than that he goes home to his wife and sleeps in bed with her.
All he has done is used what he has sensed from you and acted on it to hook you. Walk away!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 September 2006): "he SLIGHTLY tied up with a wife and kids"?
You know darn well its wrong!!
He is married - you are poaching on another's woman's man -he is MUCH older than you, and he shouldn't have kissed you in the first place!
Cancel whatever plans you have to see him tomorrow and stop thinking about him. Tell yourself he is off-limits and no good can come of this. In fact, PLENTY could come of this - TROUBLE if his wife finds out, trouble for you.
Tell him not to contact you again - no meetings, no texts or emails, no phones calls, not now, not ever and then stand by your decision.
Find a guy who is single and nearer your own age. Once you make up your mind to ditch this one, you'll find he fades from your thoughts.
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reader, bonym  +, writes (22 September 2006):
 *but he slightly tied up with 2 kids and a wife.*
Slightly tied up? Is that what you call marriage and kids, my dear he is not slightly tied up, he is married and commited to another woman, he has no business kissing you at all. How on earth can he be perfect? Here is one defintion of the word perfect:
"being complete of its kind and without defect or blemish"
I can spot a few blemishes with this man, he is a cheater and a liar. He is lying to his wife and he his hurting his whole family, sure it was just a kiss, and someone said "a kiss is just a kiss" but hell no it aint, a kiss will lead to all sorts of emotions and feelings, then sure enough, it will lead to something way more serious, you know where I am going with this dont you sweetie? Girl, I wouldnt dream of insulting you, or trying to belittle you, but dont get involved anymore with this man. The one kiss, will lead to another kiss, and then to another kiss and then you will end up sleeping with him, then you will be responsible for the breakup of his marriagem you dont want that. Think long and hard, is he worth it? Let me answer that for you: NO. Take care xXx
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reader, camille +, writes (22 September 2006):
 He's perfect man is he? Perfect doesn't exist and if you think that cheating on his wife is perfect then i worry for you. You are 17 and no matter what you think you know, as you came for advice I shall say this: No, it's not wrong to have feeling for him, but yes it's wrong to get involved with him on any level. No kissing, no flirting, no nothing. He's too old for you and has 2 children who are probably nearer your age? This is hopefully just a crush. Go and hang out with boys your own age. Why would you want to get involved with someone like this anyway? What a waste of your youth (he's trying to recapture his).
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 September 2006): I think having a wife and two kids makes him a bit more than "slightly" tied up. He is taken and is probably only looking for an affair. I would advise you find someone who is more deserving of you.
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