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writes:well i am 17 and my man is 31. we have only been together for a few days but im just wondering when it is time for me to make a move (nothing drastic just kissing, im not ready for anything else). I have also never made a move on a guy before and i dont know how to go about it. Should i just go for it and kiss him or what??Thank you in advance. x
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reader, maxsteel86 +, writes (10 January 2007):
 He's a lot older than you, let him make the first move. The huge age gap is kinda worrying though, especially since you're only 17
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question Suorpio
u say i am inexperianced but i didnt say i have never done anything i just said that i myself have ever gone in for the move. And just because he is 31 dosent mean he is immature or insecure. Im not saying i wont do anything with him but like im not going to jump into bed with him after a few days am i?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2007): If you aren't ready to go further than kissing, I'm not sure you'r ready to date a 31 year old man.
Just so you know, all the decent 31 year-old men are dating women around that age too. I'm going to go out on a limb and guess that your boyfriend is either a) so immature that women his own age aren't interested or b) so insecure that he needs to pick out younger, way less experienced girls who don't have anything else to compare him to.
I try my best to be generous about massive age differences, but this one makes me worry. You're too inexperienced to watch out for signs that you're being taken advantage of, and if you lack the confidence that comes with age and dating around more, you might not be able to stand up to this guy if he pushes you further than you're ready for.
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reader, kenny +, writes (10 January 2007):
 It only been a few days, give it abit more time before you start jumping in. I think considering the age gap of 13 years between the two of you it would be your guy that goes to kiss you first, not the other way round.
Take your time, whats the rush, have fun enjoy each others company and let things happen naturally.
Good luck x
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