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writes: hi im louise. i am 14 and i have been going out with this lad ashley now for a while (13 months) his mum knows everything about me and i am really close to her. my mum doesnt even know he exists. i have tried my hardest to keep the fact i have a bf as far away from her as poss cos i know if she ever found out i had sex or got off with a boy, made out with a boy dun everything else with a boy, she would kill me. I am turning 15 next month with a baby along in 5. on my 15th birthday i am moving in with ashley and that is when i am going to tell my mum about him but the reason i am posting this question and am worried is because i dont know weather i should tell her long we have been goin out or wether i should tell her that he is new. as for the baby. she isnt finding out till he is born. or should i tell her. sorry if i havnt made my question clear but im basicly wondering if anyone has any advice on tellin mum how i have a boyfriend and a baby on the way ?? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2007): You have to tell your mum.She might surprise you, if you feel she will go mad understand it is because she is or will be very protective of you because she loves you.And that is what will show through. you tend to find that although people who really care go mad over small stuff, over something more important they will be totallly supportive.Do expect an intial reaction though - she will be shocked to start, but that will pass. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2007): oh my,i can only say how silly you have been,your only a child yourself.first thing to do is pluck up the courage to tell ur mum or get your b/f mum to break the news,if there is any thought of what decision to take it has to be made pretty quickly by you and you alone,as its your life and you have to live with any decision thats choosen for the rest of your life,you also need medical attention there is loads of experienced trained people that can help you,your school should provide details of clinics for teenagers which is all confidental,so do yourself a favour and contact someone asap,hope it all goes well for you.
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reader, ChiRaven  +, writes (11 April 2007):
 Your mother needs to know these things right now. She'll be upset, of course, but she'll be even more upset about you not confiding in her from the beginning.
You probably can't take him with you when you tell her, but he is going to have to meet her very soon. He's going to be part of your life and part of her family (as the father of her grandchild) from now on, and she'll have to get used to that.
As to how you do it, It's just a matter of sitting down with her, alone, and starting out with the idea of you having a boyfriend, letting her know how long you've known him and how well, and then letting her know that you are expecting and giving her the details.
This will also, I hope make it possible for you to start (if you haven't already) getting proper medical attention for your pregnancy. You should be having regular checkups, taking special vitamins, and things like that. You owe that to your baby.
And good luck to you.
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