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anonymous
writes:My g/f and I have only been together for 3 months but already our sex life is non-existent.When we first met we were rampant and spent entire weekends in bed having plenty of great sex and spending hours cuddling but all of a sudden she has become completely unresponsive, and it's not just the sex either, she won't kiss me with an open mouth any more, she turns away from me in bed and if I try to touch her she moves my hands away. She says she loves me to bits and that she wants nothing more than for us to work out and have a long and happy relationship, but she has not wanted sex from me for about 3 weeks.I have tried talking about it to her, I have offered to share fantasies, sex toys, dvd's - anything to try and get the spark back but she doesn't want to know.If she says she loves me then why doesn't she find me attractive or want any physical contact any more..?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2009): Did you ever think to ask her how she is feeling? Don't even bring up sex. Maybe there is a an arguement you two had and she hasn't let go of something. Ask her if there is anything on her mind, a girl doesn't just stop wanting to be touched by her mate unless there is something eating away at her and it seems like all you can talk about it sex and how your not getting it! (that could be what she is thinking) Try it, let me know how you make out!
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reader, No_Nonsense  +, writes (17 February 2009):
 Hi there
Are you sure that the problem is you and why do you think you're to blame? It could be that she has a problem within herself, eg: insecurity or going through a phase of not wanting sex... The only way to get to the bottom of this is to talk to her and be open about your feelings. I know you said you have, but maybe it's time to tell her that although you love her, you feel that there's a part missing from your relationship and you want to feel that closeness to her, both physically and emotionally. You need to see where the problem lies before you can go about fixing it. At least give it another try before you throw in the towel.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2009): Think when you first met, is there anything missing since then, if its just sex then she would still find you attractive but it could be that she doesnt anymore and is thinking about breaking up, i have learnt that the more casual about a relationship the more women stick around,
see if you can still get it from another chick, if so then you know you still got it, and if she dumps you you can move on faster, so my advice is to start assessing what you did when you first met to what you are actually doing now,
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