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writes: Did I do something TOTALLY WRONG?A friend of mine broke up with her boyfriend yesterday and me and him are really tight. and always hang out, soo me and my bestfriend went over to his house like a normal friday night. but this wasnt a normal friday night, me and him looked like a couple and did what couples do. if his ex( my friend) finds out im screwed, what have I gotten myself into?? and he just and I mean just asked me out, OMG JUST PLEASEEE HELPP,
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 November 2006): Yes you have gotten yourself in a pickle here but you were not necessarily in the wrong. The timing could have been better but they were not together when all this happened.
First, don't offer up any information about that night to your friend. She is his ex and doesn't need to know what happened but if for some reason she finds out and confronts you, don't lie about it and tell her the truth.
Second, you need to have a sit down with this guy and find out what you actually mean to him. Are you the rebound girl? Has he always had feelings for you? Is he only asking you out to make the other girl jealous?
After you determine what his intentions are towards you and if you decide to take him up on his offer of going out, you need to have a talk with your friend. Tell her that you are planning on dating her ex and that you didn't want her to find out from someone else. I warn you now you may not like the answer you get from her and she may decide not to be your friend any longer.
A final thought for you...Is this guy worth losing a friendship over? Only you can answer that question.
Best Wishes
-J
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 November 2006): dont worry, friends are what matters. you should be honest though with your friend. she may be a bit hurt at first but give her time and she may come to accept it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 November 2006): i think you should be honest with your friend's ex! just say to him that you need time to be a friend and be there for your girl.that gives your friend a chance to get over him and in this time u can ask yourself this:- do i like this guy? u av to take into account what he has just done to your friend...brake up with her then asks out her mate straight after!however, if u do feel the same way, descuss it with your friend, and make sure she is okay with it, if she isnt, then the odds are that it would become a miistake anyway.keep in mind this will take a bit of time. but if he cant wait for you then he obviously isnt the gay for you. No guy can come between a girls friendship...ever! hope this helps hun xXx J-Girl xXx
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