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writes:Well.. Im 14 and I have recently broken up with my ex.He was my first boyfriend that I fell in love with. He is in the year above me. And well when we first met he was crazy of me always phoning me texting me and I knew that we would be going out soon. And we did by the next week. First two months I had never been so happy. I am usually a depressed person who keeps themselves to themselves. Then after awhile a got bored of the relationship and wanted to date other people. But every now and I would hear he is texting another girl and have a massive row with him he used to care so much about me and phone me until I believe he only liked me.Then after 5 months when we was walking home I told him I wanted to go on a break he said okay he new it was coming and I think he walked off before I saw him flip out. I later on phoned him and said I was certain I wanted to break up then I cried a lot down the phone saying I wanted to be friends. Then he came round my house And I round his as "friends"and he was heart broken and wanted to still go out but it felt like we was stil in a relationship. When he would walk me home we would put his arm over me and hold my hand.But now When I see him with other girls I am heart broken. Theres this one girl an old friend of mine who treated me really bad. And she has been phoning him and texting him and leaving comments on his Myspace and where it used to say happiest when with me it now said her name. And I flipped out to him on the phone I was heart broken He said it was nothing just a little joke they had. And He said he wanted to have some space and not see me as much. And It hurt me so bad I took everything he gave me and put it in a bag and threatened to through it in his face I always cried and screamed down the phone to himAnd last night I gave him the choice of getting back with me(He still calls me alot) And he said"I have been through so much apin after breaking up with you and i cant go through that again because even you said all things come to an end". So he wants to be friends but his idea of friends is hugging me and kissing my checks and nose and forehead and flirting with me. And I said No because it hurts me to much when I see him with other girls how can he make me feel like we are going out and kind of cheat on me. So I said I couldn't take it no more and it was me or nothing. And he stated on the phone for hours giving me every excuse to stay his idea of friends and why he didn't want to go back out. I felt so pathetic asking him back out and i cried and shouted and eventually hung up saying fine its nothing an he texted me saying I sat up all night thinking about how much i care about you and i care enough to not hurt you like this no more. I will always love you. Help me I want him back I cant live with out him But I feel his moving away the more I want him back.Tell me whether I should get him back or move on. And if I try to move on I will be so lonely I don't have that many friends.Please Help me :(
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2009): Thank you for your helpp!Its true how boys are boomarangs he came crawling back to me when I shut him out for a few days. I left him to feel the pain I felt For a few days then I got back with him. We are Together again And we are really happy. And now we give eachother more space... and that so called friend of mine.... not to be seen in my life again! Now I feel much stronger And I know now that you should NEVER BREAK down to a boy because it makes them want to push you away more You should just pull away yourself... (boomarang) and if they love you they will come back!!Thanks you guys!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I will defo use this webpage again!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2009): hi, lovely. firstly im sorry youre in pain. secondly have a hug from me. sometimes in life people come into our lives for a reason and a season. if he has been texting other girls and one of youre so called friends,its probably for two reasons. 1,he wants to hurt you for hurting him. 2.he aint nice and he knows it. The way i see it, u have 2 choices, go back for more pain, bite your tongue and end up in more drama. 2.Gather your energies, put new music on,through out everything that reminds you of him. Create a brand new twitter,myspace page,banning him from it. Join a group that can get u intouch with new people and share hobbies with. create ure own happiness, learn from this! Get fit,look fine, be happy, keep a diary of ure feelings, when u feel ureself getting down go out for a walk,call a family member! but not him. im giving u a blessing of support and happiness, now make a wish and see what happens.x
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reader, WiccanWonder +, writes (28 March 2009):
 Well, all i can say is something my mum said to me when i was in a similar situation:
Boys are like boomarangs.
If he truely loves you, he will come crawling back to you, on his knees begging for you.
Seriously, it's true hun.
Just be patient.
If he doesn't come back on the other hand, forget about him, there are plenty more guys out there who won't hurt you.
Hope this helps
Tasha 3
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2009): i know it's hard as i have been in this state before you will gradually see that you can move on with your life and you will definatley find other boys that will treat you good.
hope it helps
xxx
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