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writes: I'm not sure if I really want to take a trip with my boyfriend. A friend of mine and a guy are also travelling with us. I offered to stay with her and wanted both the boys to stay together, but she said she wanted to stay with her guy. I'm not sure it's the right thing to do... my boyfriend and I have been together for a year now... and almost broke up once. I'm just worried that he will think I'm needy if I went with him. I really want to go to this exotic place... I put the whole tour together and gathered people to travel... but now I'm not sure. My bf is ready to drop off... I'm not sure I want him to! I'm not even sure I don't want him to! Aaaaarghhh!!! This is driving me crazy. Can somebody please help me decide... the tickets are already booked and the whole tour is arranged. Maybe some of the guys on this site can help me... how do you think of girls that are ready to travel with you... does that change anything for you?? Any help is appreciated... looking forward to your opinions. Thanks in advance... love VJ.
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reader, Dazzerg  +, writes (12 April 2006):
 Hiya,
No worries. I have to be honest and say it doesnt seem good at all. Have the issues that caused the break-up really been resolved? It seems to me just reading off the screen that you and your bf have alot of work to do on your relationship as it is.
Is there any chance she could be persuaded to go back to how it was before, just you girls? Is there any way you can now? You might have to just grin and bear it but look at it this way, it might end up helping you decide about the relationship in an odd way. People feel differently about things away and on holiday.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 April 2006): Hi Daz... thank you for responding. Well, we broke up about 6 weeks ago. I was not sure I wanted to be with him and when I told him that, he said he didn't want to force me into anything I didn't want on my own. It's been this way since we got together... he was the one that pursued me and he always felt I didn't make him feel secure about our relationship. That and a few other problems made us call it off... but we got back together almost immediately. Now, this whole trip thing's come up! And I'm still not sure about him and this silly friend of mine (and that stupid guy) is not helping either! It was actually a plan just we girls decided on... then she decided to bring this jerk friend of hers and now I'm forced to take my bf. :'( I hate it!!!!
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reader, Dazzerg +, writes (12 April 2006):
Personally, it wouldnt bother me but although I am a guy I am not your bf. Does your friends guy have a problem with the arangements she wants? I have to ask why you almost split up, did he feel you were too needy?
It seems to me that you have done everything possible to minimise the 'neediness' you show. What he does is ultimately his descision. Maybe you could talk it through with him and decide from there? Hope that helps.
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