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writes:Hello, is it ok to send a gift (nothing expensive) to someone I have not met in person yet? -We have been writing emails to each other for about a month, and lately he has not written much, but he sent me an email a week ago saying that he was very sorry about do not being able to email me, but that he has been very busy, and that he will write me soon. I know he can be really busy with his job, and at the same time is finishing his PhD. –I have not hear from him in a week, but I was thinking about sending him a little something to make him think about me. Would that make me look desperate or obsessive? Thanks in advance for the advice. Reply to this Question
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (21 November 2011):
 nope i would not send anything...
if he wanted to be in touch with you he would be
when i started LDR with my bf (we knew each other from something in real life) he kept telling me how busy he was and how he had no time for me and how scheduled he was...
it was his way of keeping distance... because magically once I was IMPORTANT to him, he had all the time in the world for me.
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (20 November 2011):
 You may have shared a lot in your emails, but the truth is you really hardly know this man or he you. You've only been corresponding for about a month, you're not in a relationship, you've never met AND he has been a unavailable lately. He may be telling the truth about his reasons, but sending a gift at this point would look like (and most likely be) a bribe for his attention and it would indeed look desperate.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (20 November 2011):
 Don't. Send him a silly card (or E-card) but I would keep the gift giving for later.
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