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writes:If a woman never complains, and is always pleasant and supportive, will a man take advantage of her or will he become more responsive?My sister privately agonizes over a gentleman who has admitted he is only interested in dating. She, however, is completely loopy over him. When he says he'll call her or that they will meet for a date, and then does not call or tells her they can not to meet due to his terribly busy schedule, she just quietly accepts and then sypathises, calling him a "poor baby". Even though she privately fumes over feeling used and ignored - until he calls her, and all of her resolve to end it all goes out the window.All this makes me sick. I've run out of words to help her, so please, give me some new ones. And gentlemen, tell me please if you feel she should ditch the man who causes her grief. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2009): Actually, I can understand where your sister is coming from! - When someone REALLY falls for somebody else - you sometimes don't care how that person is treating you as long as you are getting attention from them in some way or form!!
I've been seeing a guy who I absolutely love - but he is always asking me for money! - But do you know - who cares? -I would give give him all of my money just to be with him! - Love indeed is blind!!
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (25 January 2009):
If you lie down and write "WELCOME" across your chest then you can't complain when people use you as a door mat.
You can sympathise with her and listen to her moaning but after a while you've just got to tell her that it's getting boring.
If she doesn't like the way she is being treated then tell her to bloody well do something about it. Either shut up about it and get used and abused in silence or get a spine and stand up for yourself, that is the way the world works.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, smeedle +, writes (25 January 2009):
 I get the feeling this bloke is actually married or in a relationship and he cannot always ring as wife/partner is around.
Even if this is not the case, its obviouse he is using her and this will go on until the day she has had enough and puts a stop to it, he is having all the fun and she is having all the sorrow.
Best to end it with him now so she can move on to someone who is genuine and wants her loving, supportive nature and not someone who abuses her good nature for his own pleasure.
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