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writes: Hi, I have quite a problem. Well, I go to church with a guy who seems perfect. I've known him for quite some time. He's 6 (sometimes 7) years older than me though...Him and I are just friends right now and I would have no intention of actually being romantic at this time. Hes so lovely though, but another problem seems to arise. I go to a very small church and it would be quite awkward and actually a little almost scandalous. Annd...what if we broke up? It would be terrible to have to see him every Sunday like that. But hes into pretty much everything I like...and I must say--He's pretttty hot.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2006): It's difficult dating someone who is inside your friendship, work or community circles. There is that chance that it won't work and it will be strange seeing them every week and then if you do something, yes, people will talk.
This is how I figure it, approach him and tell him that you enjoy his company and would like to spend more time with him. If he says yes, go for it.
Wouldn;t you rather know how things would go between you than never know. You need to take a risk and let people talk. What is the worst thing they can say. I don't know how old you are but I'm guessing not too old so I don't know if people older would really get too fussed, they may talk about it for a week or so and then move onto something else.
If it doesn't work out, it doesn't work out and you haven't lost anything. Yes, the first few times you see him it may be odd but you'll both get used to it and learn from it.
But really, the plus side is that it may work and you may have a really great time with each other and enjoy a great relationship.
That is definitely worth a shot, isn't it?
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