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writes:Im a 14 year old male. Ive had 4 girlfriends and im not looking right now. One of my bestfriends got a girlfriend and i feel kinda left put but i dont know why. The my other friend is from the middle east and doesnt know as much english as i do. He has a brother and them and some other friends joke around and we act gay. We hit each others butts and be like ill kiss you but not really kiss them. Somtimes hug each other and almost show our stuff but we dont. I would joke around and put my arm around his brother and fake and be like this is my boyfriend. His brother got mad and nicly and shorty told me off. That night i went to sleep and had a dream that a whole day at school the one who told me off, we would make out and we dated. In the dream it felt so good in the dream. I dont wanna be gay or bi; but i cant stop thanking about it. I kinda want to kiss him know to just see how it feels. Idk what should i do and does it make me gay. If so how should i tell him about this or should i just go right up and kiss him. Im sorry this was so long Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 March 2012): It seems to be a completely sensible and smart thing to do, given the way you can't stop thinking about him. Small steps first.
Does it make you gay? A little, yes, if it turns out that you enjoy it and he gets you excited. But is that so bad? Why would that be a bad thing? Look on it as a beautiful present.
But first, you need to be SURE that he wants to kiss. Keep up the eye contact and subtle physical touching, until the point where it's obvious that he wants to kiss you too, and let it happen...slowly...naturally...sexily...rather than just getting stuck in.
Be cautious, don't rush anything, don't take any risks. But definitely you should go for it if you get the chance.
Good luck, hope it goes well.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (25 March 2012):
 I think it makes you curious. But one thing is to fantasize about kissing a guy another thing is actually doing it.
I would suggest you don't act on an impulse though, that is a fast way to alienate people.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell we play tennis alot my mum doesnt let alot ppl in my houae and we are usely out with friends so how can i test then
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reader, Boonridge McPhalify  +, writes (25 March 2012):
 also at this age you may go through a phase of altering sexuality so if you have fancied both genders i would avoid labelling myself at this early stage
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reader, Boonridge McPhalify +, writes (25 March 2012):
if he got annoyed with you for pretending you were boyfriends then the liklihood is he will be very pissed off if you kiss him.
if you're going to experiment, its important to find someone who wants to also, dont force yourself in a moment of impulse because it could backfire.
a good way to test the waters with someone you fancy is to be doing something on a bed like playing computer games and seeing how much body contact you can get away with. for example a friend of mine that i fancied and i know fancied me back in the day put his feet up on my back when i was lying down playing a computer game. shit like that that your would do with someone if you were in a relationship is a good way to test the water. also playfighting is a good way to see as if they are turned on while you are rolling around wrestling they will get an erection and it will obvious to both of you.
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reader, thegrassisgreen +, writes (25 March 2012):
 You can't help your sexuality, it shouldn't make a difference whether you're gay, bi, or straight.
I think the idea of wanting to kiss this boy may just be a phase, an idea just crossing your mind a few times. I would wait a while to see if your feelings change, before coming to the overall conclusion of hat your sexuality is, or what you should do.
Hope I helped in some way:),x
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