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writes: I have been friends with this guy for about 8 years now. During our friendship, I got married and divorced, remarried and about to go through another divorce. He has always been my shoulder to cry on.When things started to go wrong in my current marriage about a year ago, he hinted that he was not like the other guys and I would that find out if I gave him a chance. I told him I did not realize he had wanted a chance since he never said anything. Since then we have met up a couple times and had some great love making sessions. We also talk at the end of every day to discuss how our days went. He is patiently waiting for me to become divorce and for my husband to leave the house so we can move into a more dating relationship.My problem is I am SO afraid that things won't work out and I will lose him as my track record is not good. We get along great, have the same values, wants and needs, and laugh at ourselves and the world. Is this something I should definitely pursue? Could I be feeling attracted to him because of my impending divorce or is what I am feeling the result of 10 years of a great friendship? HELP.
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reader, Rebecca Batchelor +, writes (15 September 2005):
 Are you attracted to him? Be honest with yourself. Do you love him? Do you think about him all the time or is he more like a brother in some ways? Is there magic in your relationship? Or perhaps more importantly, do you want magic in your relationship?
Ask yourself what you really want from a relationship. Excitement or stability? Lust or love? Or a combination of all these things. Then work out what you have with this man.
It does sound like he is an ideal soul mate for you. You are alike and get on great but yes you are vulnerable right now so what you need to do (or not do) is rush into anything. Give yourself some time; don't hastily speed into a committed relationship (although as you have already entered into an intimate relationship with him, you may have to take a somewhat slower step back)
Let him know that you need to be sure and to allow you some time to gather your wits.
He is patiently waiting for you, I'm sure he will wait a little longer.
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