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writes: Hi there,I met a guy a couple of months ago in a club (call him Mr A) and we have met up most wkds since, we have kissed loads but have not yet slept together altho we did sleep in the same bed once - but nothing more than kissing and cuddling happened. I am 25. Bout few weeks back I met one of his mates ( Mr B)apparently one of his best mates) and instantly liked him and we clicked and get on very well and have a lot more in common. He is also a bit older. Next time I saw Mr A he went home early as was too drunk and tired so me and my friend ended up going out to a club with some of his friends including Mr B. We just had a really good time and all went to round to MR B's after. We were just chatting and cuddling on the sofa, but when others left I felt I should just pretend and sleep cause I knew we may end up kissing.I bumped into Mr B few weeks later. When I said goodbye as I was with a group of my friends he treid to kiss me but I politely shied away as was not sure what was happening with Mr A, we had not seen each other for few weeks and he didn't really make much of an effort anymore to arrnage to see me.I have been in regular contact however with Mr B as we exchanged contact details. Would it be wrong if I started seeing him as I had been seeing Mr A, who is one his best mates?? Mr A seems to not really be interested and I don't think we are very compatible which is why it has fizzled. I just don't want them to think I am being like a slut or out of order. Altho I have not slept with either of them. Thanks. x
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reader, stina  +, writes (5 July 2007):
 Hi there Anonymous,
I don't see anything wrong in getting with Mr. B, especially since it's been several weeks since Mr. A has contacted you.
If you're really worried about it, you could mention something to Mr. B. Maybe say something along the lines of "I'm not sure if it matters, but I was seeing Mr. A for a little bit. It ended about a month ago, though. That wouldn't make things weird for either of you, since I know you are friends, would it?" That spells out everything and shows that you care about this new guy's feelings and his friendship with Mr. A.
I don't think they'd be able to call you anything if they knew you were cautious about getting with Mr. A's friend. And if they do say anything, then I suppose that's not the kind of people you would want to be with anyway - and it's better to know how they really are from the beginning so you can make a clean split.
Take care.
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reader, flower girl  +, writes (5 July 2007):
 You have not slept with either of them and it's not worked out with MrA, so i can not personally see any harm in it.
And if MrA is not really interested in seeing you anymore then he should not be bothered if you start dating his best friend.
Take care.x.x
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reader, youngcouple22 +, writes (5 July 2007):
after reading your question i personally dont think you sound like a slut. you have to do what makes you happy.you also have to think about it carefully. how much to you care about mr A? Mr B may be trying to get with you because you are with Mr A and it feels like a bit of a challenge. And if this is the case and you go for Mr B and he rejects you it is unlikely that Mr A would want you back.Or on the other hand Mr B may be the person you have been looking for. in that case you should get with MrB, it may turn out that you both have a long happy relationship with each other.If this does happen be careful of Mr A getting jealous and trying to get you back. You may loose both.Us guys are like that, lol.i hope i was some help. xx
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