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writes: I have guyfriend whos gay and has a boyfriend. His parents doesnt know about it. He wants to tell them but afraid they'll kick him out. He wants me to help him tell them but I told he should do it on his own. Hes mad at me for not being there for him. what the big deal?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 September 2008): Another option that your friend can do, before telling his parents. Have him check out this link for Pflag Canada (Parents Families and Friends of Lesbians and Gays) at: http://www.pflagcanada.ca/en/index-e.asp"PFLAG Canada is a national charitable organization, founded by parents who wished to help themselves and their family members understand and accept their non-heterosexual children." I am sure they can supply a contact email or phone number and it might be a good idea for your friend to speak with a counselor. Have him check it out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 September 2008): Plainly this is a big deal to him. How parents deal with such news has a huge effect on a kids' lives. Understandably, your friend is worried about being rejected and asked to leave his home. And he wants to tell them so he's looking for your support and friendship. It's likely he feels if you are with him, his parents will be careful not to over-react. Telling his parents in person can be hard, because hurtful things can be blurted out. So yes, how your friend's family will react to him is vitally important to him. Some parents already know it..they see the signs early. And then there are the parents with strong, rigid convictions who will view homosexuality as wrong and will find it the hardest to accept in their gay teens. You know what--- a good thing to suggest to him is, if he's finding this task very difficult. Ask him to write a letter to his parents. If he can give them a letter and heads off to school, they will read it and are going to have time to really think out what they want to say to him.. This will also give them time to think about their reaction more than they would if they had to immediately react. If they are shocked, they will need time to let the news sink in before they give can attempt to speak to your friend about this. And remember, many people struggle with the idea of coming out. Some never end up telling their families the truth about their lifestyle. It is important for your friend to remember that he has just as much right to be a homosexual as a heterosexual has to be straight.. And he likely wants to tell his folks because he should not be ashamed of who he is. I recommend you be proud of him for going through with this. But this is a very personal, family issue and if you feel you don't want to be a part of that...you have the right to say No.
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