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writes:I've only been in one serious relationship which lasted three years and my ex and I told each other "I love you" within a few weeks and meant it. We went through a lot during our time together and were always there for each other...we only ended because he moved back to Australia to care for his family. Anyway, I get together with "Andro" after some time and from the first, we clicked. We never fight, we get along well without needing anything but each other. I lost my virginity to him, but no, sex isn't a primary thing with us. It's only been four months...I distance myself from him though and he hates it. Hes older than me by more than ten years... Sometimes, I think I love him already. In Spanish, he told me, "te quiero" the lesser form of I love you but more than I like you. I wonder, how long does it take a man to fall in love? I left him for a wk, and he felt abandoned..said he shouldve known that itd happen when he got close to someone. Men, help, I need to know..i cant let him or myself fall in love.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHmm well thanks for the replies every one...oh and I only mentioned my ex because we fell in love rather quickly but no, I'm not waiting for him. I'm afraid to be in love with this current man because I don't think he's the marrying kind and I'm old fashioned, I never want kids without marriage or anything..it's just not for me. Someone told me guys took forever to fall in love and I was curious about that since I've only been involved with two men :p
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2010): It takes him 2.3 seconds. Seriously, this really is a stupid question, there is no set time limit for a guy to fall in love, some never do. Why can't you let yourself or him fall in love? It's not because you think your ex is coming back because the only reason you broke up was he moved away? You broke up, it's over, move on.
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reader, 11muds11  +, writes (12 July 2010):
Why did you distance yourself from him? Because he was coming on too strong? If yes then tell him this. If he loves you for you, then he will slow down and let you catch upAbout the age difference. In my family tree, most marraiges there is a 10 year plus difference. And there is not one divorce. Most of the marriages are the sloppily in love kind. And the women have gone on to great career lives with full support of their husbands.Now if you're worried about the age difference because he's moving to fast or you don't want to be too serious this young, then tell him. If he respects you, he'll slow down. Good luck.
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