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writes:I am in a long distance with my bf. We have talked about moving in together within a couples of months. The thing is that I did not want to move in with him until we had something solid (sure about our relationship). I talked him that I wanted to be sure about us before moving in. then, he asked me whether if what I wanted was for us to get marry, then I reply with a "yes". Then, he reply with a "no"..I am not ready yet. I told him that I won't move in with him 'll i had some reasurance. However, if asked me again when was i going to move in, then i said next year..I do not want to pressure him, but I am the one moving in and making all this changes in my life. I expect him to do whatever possible to be with me as well as i would do for him; but he is not willing to comit. I don't know what to do. It is really frustating 'cause he wants me with him, but won't commit. I love him with all my heart, but sometimes I think he does not love me enough, I am finding very difficult to handle this conflit. could you give me some advice on what to do?..
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 September 2007): live together see how it goes first.
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reader, yeahitsgreat +, writes (28 September 2007):
 yeah i know you dont want to pressure him or go back on your wishes either, so maybe you could have a long engagement. if he is not ready to get married thats okay but you both have to feel comfertable
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reader, leanne.od  +, writes (27 September 2007):
 surely moving in is committment enough?
marriage comes when the time is right and until you live together, you don't know how compatible you are especially if it is a long distance relationship, you need to understand one another.
if you need to a rock on your finger to convince you of his love, you need to question your motives behind the relationship. he does love you and maybe one day you will get married but you can't pressure him and force him.
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