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*avida gluis
writes:ok so here's thing...last night my boyfriend and i were in the back seat of his car and we were just mucking around exploring each other's bodies, when he started to push against me which was fine because i wanted him to but i didn't want him to enter me which he didn't. so am i still considered a virgin because he only pushed and stroked himself against me he never entered me because i kept telling him no. what would your definition of sex be because i believe i'm still a virgin as i was never penetrated but what do you think?
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reader, davida gluis +, writes (18 December 2009):
davida gluis is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks all for answering and to 'Good Girl' yes my bf is a gentleman and he is willing to wait as long as it takes. thank you all so much.
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reader, daletom  +, writes (17 December 2009):
You are still a virgin until a penis enters you and stretches your vagina open.
What you did for your B/F is sometimes called "dry humping" or "heavy petting" or "outercourse". Many couples use this as a way to maintain technical virginity. If your B/F is fully in agreement with your desire to postpone penetrative sex, you can pleasure each other and maintain your commitments for many months or years.
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (17 December 2009):
 You are still a virgin until your vagina has been penetrated by a man's erect penis. However, sex has a broader definition which includes other activities as well as intercourse, regardless of former U.S. President Bill Clinton's definition.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 December 2009): Personally I would say no, you are not a virgin. But that's because I didn't even kiss a girl till I was 25, and I think that was such the worst thing I could have done to my emotional self. See, there are definitely some benefits to getting some experience in this regard so maybe since you are interested, and you are an adult, it would not be the worst thing in the world for you to just call it like it feels and proudly say 'I am not a virgin anymore' and then use that empowerment to decide how to handle future relationships. You're not broken or damaged, you are human and you are curious and you are an adult.
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reader, Good Girl +, writes (17 December 2009):
 You are still a virgin. You should carry condoms when you are with him just in case you decide that it's time. Sounds like he's been a gentleman, but make sure he knows what you want and do not want. Have fun!
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