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writes:I just recently broke it off with my boyfriend of nine months, I was tired of being his mother. I did everything for that kid, and he appreciated none of it. I wasn't happy at all in the relationship. I was belittled and treated wrongly. I paid for everything. Was the only one with a car. I was just fed up. We fought all the time, about stupid shit. Mostly because I didn't give him my undivided attention. I feel so bad about the break up partly because his parents paid for us to go on a cruise in August. But I felt as if I wasn't able to hold on that long, and it wasn't fair to anyone, including me. And how could I go on a cruise being unhappy with our relationship.24 hours after I broke up with my boyfriend, I had one of my good guy friends come over. We were driving around talking about everything, and he was comforting me about the break up. After we were driving around, we got a couple of blankets and laid under the stars for awhile, and we were cuddling and he was making me laugh and all that good stuff. Before he left he kissed me, multiple time.I feel guilty about it, but I really could use some advice.I'm wondering if this is too soon or what.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2012): Sometimes parents know they have an immature or irresponsible son so they feel good when he meet a responsible women.
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reader, PeanutButter +, writes (25 March 2012):
 It is probably too soon to move on but you certainly shouldn't feel guilty. Life deals us curve balls now and then, just go with it to a degree and make good of it. Best of luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2012): It probably is too soon, I guess..but you feel hurt and devalued. You need someone to take you out, lay with you, comfort you, show you promise in how you should be treated.
Unfortunately, since you just broke up with your ex you may still be on the rebound. Even though you know he is wrong for you, you are still going to be thinking about him and trying to figure out how it all went wrong. It is probably not a good time to get involved. You may end up feeling even more confused. But I don't know...do what you feel in your gut is right.
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reader, shrodingerscat +, writes (25 March 2012):
 It's too soon right now to get involved with someone, yes. But if you are interested in him, let him know that in the future when you feel more healed and ready, you want to try a relationship with him.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (25 March 2012):
 Your ex's parents had money to pay for the cruise yet you had to pay for everything else? Are you sure he was your boyfriend? Nonetheless you would still have feelings for your ex no matter how he treated you. Kissing a guy 24 hours after a break up is too soon. Your good guy friend either had a crush on you before or he is preying on weakness due to your loss of love. I suggest going into it slowly because you don't want other people talking about this. If your ex and you have common friends he might know what's happening now. Your ex would think you planned this all along, that you broke up because of the other guy. He might badmouth you. It's true that a break up means it's all over, you go your seperate ways but if you have compassion you would avoid putting salt on his wound and also you want to move on without feelings of guilt.
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reader, curious1987  +, writes (24 March 2012):
 its too soon when ur still on the rebound. however, don't feel bad. u met a new guy that give you the attention u deserve, and treats you right. maybe tell this guy u just got outta a bad relationship, and want rake it slow.
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