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writes:A few days ago i told my g/f i was unhappy and stated a few reasons. I told her she didn't make me happy, but i wanted to work at it and not split. Now, after 3 days she has come back and said " you are right, i agree, i thought i was happy , all these things are wrong so lets break up" I am shocked and gutted and it was me who gave her the ammoHow do i get her back? I emailed her today to meet and she said lets meet next week to talk calmly. Why does she want to wait till next week? I want it sorted now. What do i say if the reasons still stand. She still loves, fancies me and i believe her but she says that she can do no more than she is doing to make me happyIs there hope? What do i say do ? Reply to this Question
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reader, Toria +, writes (26 October 2006):
 Maybe she wants the time between now and next week to make sure when she meets you she doesn't make the wrong choice and regret it which is a good thing for you to do aswell and will give you both time to realise whether you miss each other as your a part from one another, the problems were there and that is the reason for this break up so you will need time to work out what you really feel and whether these problems are something that can be worked on and worked through.
You haven't stated what the problems actually are but she told you that she can do no more to make you happy than what she is already doing surely if you love someone and want to be with them you will do anything and everything to make them happy?
Good luck :o)
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reader, camille +, writes (25 October 2006):
 Seems you were both thinking the same deep down, but squashed pride aside, it doesn't matter WHO did it, it obviously wasn't working. This could be the making of the relationhip, but of course... it could also be the breaking. Relationships are hard and do take some amount of work, but ask yourself why you want to work it out? Only you know the problems but it's important to try and find that answer. It may be habit. Maybe you love her but that doesn't always make the relationship right, it may not be enough. As you sowed the seed, I'm afraid you can hardly blame her for reacting this way, so for now, just give her time (use it wisely yourself) and see her next week. This way you'll have both had the chance to think about it.
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