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writes: So confused, ive been seeing my boyfriend for 1 year and 2 months he moved abroad in jan 2006 and ive been out there twice to see him and he has met me once in a country nearby. We have been under pressure as he wanted me to move abroad to be with him, he lives in middle east. I made my decision to move out their end of sept, we have talked about marriage, kids our life together (he brought up the subject of kids, marriage etc). we saw each other 5 weeks ago for a week and weve have seen ech other nearly every 2 months since he left. He has told me now not to give up my job as hes not happy where he lives and unssure if his contract will be renewed in jan. I was worried that e maybe wanted to cool things off and spoke to him about it he said now way. He ended up telling me hwas coming home for a week to see me to suprise me for my birthday and not to worry. After speaking to my parents I was worried everything was ok and aske him again he wasnt happy and said i was being insecure we argued and i hung up on phone. He said he is under enough pressure with his work etc he has high leve director job. He came home and didnt call me for 4 days I left two messages for him. He didnt take me to wedding i was invited to as planned and turned up on my birthday saying he has doubts, and doesnt think Id be happy living in middle east and has doubts about the relationship and has thought about it and wants to end it. I am devastated, he is now away back abroad and I dont know what to do. I tried to call him at airport before he left he didnt answer and sent text saying he was on plane and would talk when he got to his destination. Ive not heard anything for 3 3days now. I miss him and dont know what to do. Can anyone give me some advice.Thanks
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reader, maxsteel86  +, writes (10 September 2006):
 Maybe he's come to his senses and decided it sucks to live in the middle east? Why would you want to start a life in that place anyway?
If your boyfriend's contract expires and he returns to where you live (hopefully the west or even the far east), it'll most definitely be a better move for you both. Dont think of it as though he's going cold on you.
Sorry if I haven't talked about the whole problem you described, I didn't read it (very short attention span:-/)
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reader, sugapuff  +, writes (10 September 2006):
 im really sorry to hear youve been treated like this you really dont deserve it.
i think you have to accept its over.
he seems to think theres nothing more to say and doesnt want to have to deal with it anymore!
he behaved extremely badly by ending it this way!
ask your self would u ever treat anyone how hes treated you?
but dont be a victim if you wouldnt it goes to show you are far far to good 4 him and deserve a million times
better.
just try keep your head up and pull yourself back together time really is a great healer and be good to yourself you are not to blame sometimes people just are not right 4 each other its no ones fault!
but it is his fault 4 ignoring you and dumping some1 on there birthday is awful!and inexcusable!
his actions are a sign of whats wrong in him an not a sign of anything wrong with you.
you deserve so much more never 4 get your own worth or be made feel worthless!
i hope ive helped in some way
be strong
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