I was hoping that we would fall in love at the same time. I'm ready to, but he is not.

A female age 51-59, anonymous writes:

I'd been dating this guy for almost two months now.. He really likes me and so do I but he said to me that he wants to take it slowand not fall in love fast with me yet.. this gives me red flag--because I am ready to fall in love and I Was hoping that we'll fall in love at the same time.. what if I fall in love with him first and he's not? although he said that he can see himself falling in love with me too.. I am being self protective so I was wondering if Ishould let go of him and find someone whose emetionally ready to fall in love. He was hurt from his last relationship.. so i guess he's being very sure about us. I wonder if by taking things slow that i should also stop having sex with him? It seems like he wants to take it slow with me emotionally but physically he doesnt mind having sex with me.. is he only after sex? or is there a possibility that he can also fall for me?Hes very consistent in showing that he's really interested and I know he's not seeing anybody.. please help? He wants me to hang on and be patient with him... My concern is what if six months from now he's still not loving me and I am already? its like a one-sided relationship.. He said that if ever I fall for him he will do his best to make me happy.. what does it mean? hE ALSO said that he can see me in his future... I dont know how sincere is that? please give me some advice.. thank you so much!

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