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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:well I have this friend and I reallllllly liked him and he was 'talking' to me but he was also talking to like 2 other girls which made me upset and jealous. that's why the next time I saw him I gave him head and made out with him felt him up he felt me up and its been making me feel guilty and whore-ish. it just feels wrong because I wasn't in a relationship. but it also seems like he forced and pressured this upon me. but I know I still need to take the blame. and I feel retarded because he's STILL talking to these other girls. idk what else to do to get his attention because these girls are way prettier than me. but he's like not a pig because he doesn't do that stuff with the other girls (i kinda know them but not friends directly, but have mutal friends) but he's a total ass for being insensitive. I was like 'hey I reallly have a lot going on right now about us' and he's like 'like what?' (hes not much of a deep talker or listener) and I go 'do you really wanna listen?' and he's says no ): I was like just stop talking to me. and he did. he has NO problem stopping contact with me but its SO hard for me and its been only 5 days and I miss talking to him. I just want him to talk to me first to show he still has some interest you know? but idk if he will since I told him to stop talking to me. do you guys think he will? and do you guys think I should still try with him? (i kinda got even more attached with the sexual things, which is why I fucked up)so if you don't think I should still try, what can I do to get over him and to stop having the urge to talk to him?note:males perspectives would be great because I've done some hard core thinking lol and I've had plenty of close guy friends who'd tell me they act insensitive to act hard for their friends to just 'be a guy' or they actually didn't and had no sympathy. I feel like shit, help? ):
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reader, scrazy  +, writes (21 July 2008):
 Well sadly, you learned your lesson the hard way and hopefully, in the future, next time you like a guy, you'll know that sex is NOT the way to get him to like you back.
He used you and then tossed you away when he was done, which I'm sure hurts like hell. This guy is a jerk, stay away from him.
Boys like him, don't change with time. If he comes back to you, it's because he thinks he can get some more from you because of before. He doesn't care about you or your feelings at all.
Never do sexual things with a guy unless you are in a fully committed relationship and never let them pressure you into what you don't want to do! No matter how much you like them, there WILL be other guys.
Just put him in the past and move on with your future. You are worth much more and he does NOT deserve you at all.
Just remember, the guy who doesn't need you to do sexual activities is a keeper.
Take Care
XO
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reader, VMLBabyDoll +, writes (21 July 2008):
oh hun, i get sexual with my BF, just remind yourself that your not of age i do. clam down and go slow u'll get through this. believe in your self 4get about this guy, start a new, you've still got school to finish, dont try to hard u'll hurt yourself with this.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (21 July 2008):
 It does make one feel like shit when one allows someone to use us and cast us aside when they are finished. It's a good thing that you are so upset about it. Now you won't let anything like this happen to you in the future. Dust yourself off and leave this guy in the past. Remember, especially for guys, that sex and love are not necessarily connected. You have to make sure the love is there first.
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (21 July 2008):
Oh sweetheart you have learned a hard hard lesson. Doing sexual stuff with a guy won't make him like you or respect you.
This guy sounds like a jerk and is never going to change. He doesn't care about your feelings and is never going to come over and be nice and show interest. He is never going to stop being insensitive. He's had all that he wants from you now.
It's horrible but all you can do is learn from your mistake. Never put yourself in a situation where you feel pressured to do something for a guy, and never do sexual stuff until after you are in a relationship.
Stop seeing him, stop hanging around the places where he hangs around, go out with your girl friends and have some fun and try to forget about him.
You are worth more.
Good Luck!! xx
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