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writes:Please help! I want to go working abroad, to do seasonal jobs but my boyfriend doesn't like it when i go working away. I have only been working away once and he finished with me because of it, although just before i came back he asked me to get back with him, so we are still together now. I know it would be hard with us not seeing each other for some time but i love to travel and it's my dream to do that kind of work. We don't have children and we don't live together so it's not like we are at a very serious stage. I could understand it more if we were. He is 25 by the way and i am 26. I don't think it's a trust issue as neither of us has cheated on the other but maybe he is worried about other guys liking me anyway, or maybe he just thinks i will forget about him, or that he just doesnt want us to be apart for so long. What should i do? Reply to this Question
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (20 April 2010):
 He probably just doesn't want you to be away for so long. It damages the relationship when one partner is always away. And you say you love to travel. Can he not travel with you? If not then you have to decide which is more important to you. Your current boyfriend, or travelling and doing the things you enjoy? Be honest with him. It is not fair to expect him to sit around and wait while you go explore the world on your own. Perhaps you would be better off if you found a boyfriend who shares your passion for travelling?
Either way, your boyfriend has made it very clear. Ether you stay, or you break it off. You have the choice, but you can not have both.
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