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*helbyy-x
writes:I was with my babys dad from 2008 to 2011. In 2010 I met this guy that i had interest in and my current relationship was on and off. When my babys dad and I broke up for awhile I started seeing this guy. we had a thing for about 6 months but i wouldnt stop talking to my babys dad So we got back together and this other guy got a gf. the first month they were dating she started saying i love you and had her daughter call this guy dadwell finally after them dating a year and me dating my babys dad dating 3 years we broke it off with them and started seeing each other again. We have been seeing each other 9 months now but he wanted to take thing slow so we werent official until 2 months ago.He was there for my sons birth in December of 2011. My babys dad is not around for my son. My Questions Is:I want to say I love you to my boyfriend because I feel that I am falling in love with him but im wondering if its to soon and im scared of what he will say or how he will feel. I also want him to be "daddy" to my son but I dont know how to tell him that or how he will feel about that either.I dont want to be like his ex gf by wanting him to be daddy to my baby and seeming like Im saying I love you to him so fast since he said he wanted to take things slow... So how do I tell him these things? Can I have opinions and advice?
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reader, Johnnz  +, writes (8 March 2012):
i wouldnt dwell on it too much, perhaps if this guy is still around when your boy starts to talk you could teach him to say "Da-da"
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reader, Shelbyy-x +, writes (7 March 2012):
Shelbyy-x is verified as being by the original poster of the question Very true. but the other day he sat there and kept saying he is my sons "best buddy" lol and i said i think youre more than his best buddy and he said "well what do you want me to be then? thats up to you on what you want me to be to him." and I just didnt know what to say so i said yeah I know. Maybe I should just let it be until my son gets older and see what happens.
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reader, Johnnz +, writes (7 March 2012):
Let your heart do the talking and try not to think about it so much. If you love him, tell him so. Dont tell him you want him to be "daddy"... that will come naturally, if he was there for the birth he probably feels like a dad and doesnt need to be told anything. if he bonds with your child then you dont need to want him to be your childs daddy because he is already.
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