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writes:My cousin and I are both 16 and we always have a lot of fun together. But, 2 years ago i started getting sexual feelings for him. I would like to tell him but i am not sure how he would react. We dont see eatch other much (mabey about once a year) but when ever i do see him i cant stop thinking about it for the longest time afterwards. Should i tell him how i feel? please dont say all of the genetic related issuses, "morals" or church related things becuse i already know. I am just looking for advide on the relationship part. thanks
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reader, c.lili  +, writes (3 July 2010):
 Sorry to say, but you should try to ignore those feelings. It's very probable that if you say or do anything, since he is family you will drive him away, and at least you have a friend.
I may say I've had crushes on 2 of my cousins, both are very cute and nice guys, but I can say you get over it once another guy comes in line. Cousins make great friends and are different then brothers so I understand why you got a crush on him. Be careful it's a delicate issue. Try to look at this with adult eyes.
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reader, LLindy87 +, writes (2 July 2010):
 just tell him how you feel. but doing so, know that he could be creeped out, I don't say that out of judgement, I say that to make you see the worst case scenerio. A lot of people do see cousin relationships as odd, but to each there own :). Perhaps your cousin feels the same way. You won't find out until you talk to him about it. Talk to him about it before you make any physcial moves on him. He may be more receptive to it if you use words first.also, consider what your family would think. Would they be okay with you two dating? Its an unique situation. after all its two siblings children dating. Your relationship could entail more complications than you realize but it doesn't mean its impossible.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2010): Simple - yes you should tell he has the right to know, the same you have the right to get it off of your chest. It sounds like you like each other alot, you have fun and laughs, and if he loves you (in a cousinly way) then he'll understand - he'll make jokes, or be a little akward which should go away with time, he might even teasingly flirt with you (don't let it go too far - though you probably already know that). If he reacts badly - which he really shouldn't and would make him a jerk because it would take a lot of guts to admit that- then remind him that its just a CRUSH.Though make sure your ready, because when/if you tell him its most likely it will somehow spread throughout your family.
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reader, Mr Doctor +, writes (2 July 2010):
of course say it! I think you will be surprised...
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