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writes:I need your advice.I met a guy at work a year ago and we got on like a house on fire. We have been meeting up 3 or 4 times a week for a chat and I have fallen for him. I can't be sure, but I think he feels similarly.The problem is that I'm about to take a 6 month holiday out of the country. I'm going to miss him desperately and want to tell him how I feel, but in doing so, am I being selfish by telling him and then leaving? And what if he doesn't feel the same?? I'll not be here to talk to him. I can email him, but it's not the same as talking face-2-face.What would you do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2006): so you meet as friends 3/4 times a week?and you think he likes you back so why not go for it and tell him! i know its a cliche but you only live once ... living with regret is the worst feeling! i completely agree with red roses that telling him now is the best time. becuase then you have 6 months of happiness seeing new things all the while knowing that someone is thinking of you as you are of him! and if he doesnt feel the same then at least you'll know, theres nuthin worse than not knowing!! and you'll still have great trip... i really hope it works out for you with him Good luck
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reader, red.roses.88 +, writes (4 November 2006):
Yes definately tell him because it can really go only two ways: either he will feel the same way and will say that he will wait for you, that way you can keep in contact over email, on the phone etc or he will say that he doesnt and that way it gives you 6 months to get over him, find someone else and for there to be no bad feeling when you get back.
If you dont tell him then my guess is that you wont be able to move on because there will always be that doubt about whether he did actually feel the same and this will be made worse if he ends up going out with someone else whilest your gone.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 November 2006): Well considering the fact that 6 months in a guys life is like dog years or 3 and 1/2 years, I think it would be best to tell him how you feel about him that you will miss him and that you hope he will look you up when you return, and I would not hold my breath that he will, enjoy your holiday and have a wild romance...maybe 2.
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