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writes:I have known this guy (man, boy, person... whatever title you choose) for 6 months now. We met when we came to school. We had both talked prior to coming to school online. We both live in residence. Anyway, short after I came to school I went out with someone he knew for three months. During that time re remained friends, but we weren't very close. During that time we never stopped being friends though. The one thing is he never liked my boyfriend, just because they had differences. After I broke up with my boyfriend the origonal person began to talk more and new classes began so we had classes together for a change. He and I began to talk about school and about the past and whatnot and he'd suggest we could do homework together. We did homework and whatnot. He also invited me out a couple of times and he began to wait for me after classes, get me to sit with him and talk outside of class. We're both in some of the same groups around school so we hang out for that as well. I invited people to my birthday and when he saw my outfit he complimented me and made a big deal about how I should dress like that more. He's done that now on a couple of occasions and people ask me why he cares and I shrug it off. He also got my cell number, which he never bothered to get before, and so now he texts me too, mostly about school but not always. Sometimes I think he's looking at me, and he sometimes plays this staring game of his where he stares at me and says my name, it's hard to explain. Anyway, if it were anyone else I'd think he was flirting with me and that he liked me, but on the other hand we're just friends. He makes hints like we should go to this restuant some time, both other times he tells me we should hang out just for something to do. I hang out with his friends too sometimes, but really he has other friends who are girls too. I think he's great and we have lots of similarities, but I'm afraid his hinting is not really hinting and he's either just being that way since he doesn't like my former boyfriend or since he needs a friend in his classes. I sit and think about it forever and I'm confused. If I ask him it might make things aqward or scare him away from me. On the other hand, I sometimes semi flirt back by smiling and laughing at things he says, so I don't want to lead him on. I'm a person who takes things slow, and so I wouldn't want to have him think I don't like him and move on, at the same time I don't want to make a mistake and lose the person I have so many classes and activities and connections with. What do you suggest I do? What is your outside opinion on the matter?
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2009): But if I tell him I don't want to rush things that implies we both want a relationship. Do you think he likes me? I mean, number one, what if we're just friends? Number two, just because he likes me doesn't mean he'll go out with me?
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reader, andrew loves hali +, writes (25 February 2009):
 tell him you dont want to rush thing im sure he'll understand
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