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30-35,
*ray4plagues
writes:I have a boyfriend. The dearest thing to my life. He shares my standards, respects me, loves my family, and puts me first over anything and everything. We never really fight, but we are really serious and we back out at random times. I'm younger then him by 3 years, so I'm still in school. He's going on a 2-year mission so I'll be done with school by then. We planned that when he gets home we'll go to College together, get married, have kids, etc. My future isn't to stable, I might move on the other side of the country away from him this summer, we haven't seen each other in a year, and school is making me so busy we haven't talked in two weeks.He goes to school dances, dates, and plays 'inside jokes' with other girls he goes to school with.I've told him we've needed to slow down that we're still kids, I've even broken up with him... but he always comes back and we start where we left off and go further. I had a feeling I had to break up with him in seminary a week ago, and now I'm second guessing myself. I told him about it, and like a man about to lose his girl he fought against it. But, the longer we're together I feel the need is bigger to break it off. I don't know how to explain to him that it's to soon to be this far with a guy, that I think we need to take steps back, and be more teenagers dating then engaged couples. How do I tell him that I love him, and wish to be with him, if I still feel the same way after high school? How do I tell him I want him, but I don't want him because it's to fast and far in the relationship for me? Or, do I just wait it out untill he leaves to have a normal life, and we pick it up when he comes home?
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reader, pray4plagues +, writes (20 September 2009):
pray4plagues is verified as being by the original poster of the question In the last paragraph, "he does whatever he wants to do but likes to tell you what he thinks you want to hear"
-What if it's not anything close to what I want to hear, and he knows that?
We've been together 2 1/2 years, and since I've moved it's gotten harder. I've relized it's been over for awhile now. But, I don't know how to tell him without hurting him.
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