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*rago123
writes:Ok.... So me and my cousin have been really good friends for a while and a few weeks ago I was messing around with her and we got on the subject of sex. So I asked her if I could turn her on would she wana consider having sex. She replied ya. So I asked well y would u. So she told me because it was because we have so much in common and that she had actually wanted to have sex with me for a while she was just to scared to ask. Its been 3 months since we have sex and we are currently dating without anyone knowing and I have considerd proposing to her. I know she will say yes I just don't know how to tell my family they are die hard christians and would kill us. How do I tell them. Please help me someone.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (10 November 2012):
 "you need to drop the idea of marriage for a while and invest in some condoms instead."
This, exactly. Regardless of whether she's your cousin or not, 17 is WAY WAY WAY too young to be married. Not just emotional maturity, but also you have no way of supporting each other. There is no point in marriage if you are living at home with your parents buying you everything. If you truly want to spend your lives together, a few years won't matter. If you literally cannot wait a few years to get married, then that right there should tell you that marriage, a lifelong commitment, is not a good idea for you.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (10 November 2012):
 If you are seriously considering getting married at the ripe old age of 17, which is a very mature and adult thing to do, you need to present your family with proof you are equipment o be that mature adult.
Research the marriage laws for your state. Ensure your marriage will be legal.
Document how you are intending to pay for the wedding.
Document how you are going to earn enough money to set up house and then support yourself and any children that may arrive within the next few years.
With money in the bank, a house of furniture, a car in your garage, a steady income and a financial plan for the future your family should recognise your resolve and the fact you have prepared for your, and your cousins, futures.
If you cant do any of that, if your family are still supporting you, and if your cousin is still living at home being supported by her family, you need to drop the idea of marriage for a while and invest in some condoms instead.
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